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In an open relationship, but still care about my ex-boyfriend. What to do?
18/f
My ex-boyfriend, let's call him "Greg," and I broke up 2 months ago. But it seemed like we were kind of dragging it on even then... We were acting like a couple still, but we still considered ourselves single. I didn't want it to end, but he kept telling me to move on and to find another guy. He told me that he would be upset if I did, but he would be more relieved because he feels terrible for making me so sad. He said that he had no interest in girls at the moment, and that he just wanted to focus on school to become a surgeon.
He went on vacation for a week and a half, and we only spoke once since he his schedule was very hectic. So over the time, I was talking to an old friend of mine, let's call him "Steve", Steve and I started to develop feelings for each other. So now, we are in an open relationship. Since he travels back and forth to go to school in another state, it's an open relationship. Plus, the whole situation with Greg (taking me for granted, acting cold-hearted, tells me to move on, but yet tells me he does miss me) would be too confusion for him if we were in a relationship, especially since he also recently got out of a relationship, and he's been feeling really bitter about it. So we still call each other friends, and we say that we're not really together, we're just friends who go on casual dates, enjoying each other's company, and cuddling, no sex.
And since Greg came back from vacation, he texted me that he was back and he sends me text messages now and then since I don't really say much to him anymore. I am still getting over him, and I thought I would be okay with whatever he did... It hits me in the face, I heard that he was joking around with his friends about dating other girls, and that he wishes that he picked up a girl while he was on vacation, but it wasn't possible because it was such a short amount of time since everyone there was "cute and hot." It bothered me. I'm not sure why, I'm not sure if it's because he said he's not looking and not interested since he wanted to focus on school, or because I still like him??
What should I do about this whole situation with the open relationship and ex-boyfriend?
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You should play the field, your too young to be in this mess. You know whats going on with u your liking any guy that is cute, you have to look beyond looks and see whats on in the inside of a person so you will not get hurt or most imporant get USED!!!! yOU HAVE YOUR WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU ENJOY IT NOW GO OUT ON DATES, NOTHING SERIOUS.
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Move on like he said
This guy didn't want to be in a relationship with you, He told you that by telling you to move on. It's uncool to be in a relationship with someone who still dwells on a past relationship. Sure, Maybe he will miss the good times but from the sound of it he just wants to lay low and meet other people. Waiting around and wondering what you should do is just a waste of time especially if he told you to meet someone else. I've always said: If you remain friends then you prolong your pain. It's true, It's much easier to get over someone if you are not in contact with that person. If you don't like being in a open relationship with Steve then maybe you should just start over and meet someone who is available to you. Steve goes in and out of town and Greg just wants to see other people and focus on his schooling. Sometimes it's better to except things as they were, Greg is the past and he choose to have it that way. It's up too you if you want to remain friends with the guy but honestly if someone dumped me and told me to move on......I think that'd be the end of that.
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