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I am bff's with the school slut.Is that bad?
Ok I'm 13/f,and I have a bff who's like my sister.Her name is Mercedes.But when we went back to school August 8,we got put into different classrooms.So the school's slut was in my classroom,and we're now bff's.But my friend Mercedes says that's a bad thing.So she get's angry because I'm hanging with the school slut all day everyday.My mom also doesn't approve of that.But they don't really know anything about the school's slut.She's not like people think she is.My mom said that I'm gonna end up acting like her,but I don't think I will,because I was bff's with her before,and didn't act like her.SO,if all of this is happening,should I end me and Shay's (school slut) friendship?Or what should I do?
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You shouldn't care what other people think about your friendship even if it's your mother. And since you say that you know that your not going to act like her then there are not going to be any problems. And it doesn't matter if your friend is a slut, as long as she's a true friend then you have no reason not to be friends with her. :)
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If you are friends with her then it seem's a bit harsh to stop just because of a reputation she has got, plus this depends on the society you live in, a very strict society would see a slut as someone who has had a few boyfriends and done some kissing but a relaxed society wouldn't really consider her slutty unless she slept around a lot.
The worries your mother has are founded as typcally humans will conform their attitudes to belong to a social group through fear of exclusion, but if you believe this girl is kind and misunderstood you should try to introduce her to your other friend, ask them to try and get along for your sake and they may be pleasantly surprised, don't expect miracles though as sometimes two people just won't mix.
The other thing to remember is not everyone knows this girls past, she may appear slutty because of a serious reason such as abusive parents or she may just enjoy attention but to each their own. If she starts doing things you don't like, like smoking and getting drunk/doing drugs just tell her you would appreciate she leaves you out of those activities and doesn't talk about them with you, then your less likely to decide to try them. Also, don't ignore your relationship with this other girl who you have been friends with for longer, try to make time for both of them and respect their wishes if they truely don't get on, the stories that are shared between you and one of them shouldn't be carried on to the next girl :) hope that helps
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