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My boyfriend of a year and few months is now going away to college....
Hello,
I'm 19 year old femal and my boyfriend is 20.and we have been together for a year and a few months. He is leaving for college in september and I will be staying home going to nursing school. This will not be the first time we will be apart for a long time. He played hockey for a Junior team and was away from home for almost 6 months but would come home on holidays. We stayed together through that, which was hard but with txting and phone calls and skype we made it work..I guess I'm just very nervous knowing their are going to be a lot of new faces that he will be meeting and I'm nervous he will find someone else or things will just go down hill. We did discuss the other day our feelings of him going away to college and I did mention taking a break, but we both do not want to do that, we both really love eachother, and he has yet to give me a reason to not trust him. We have talked about the future and about what we want and we see eachother together. I just don't want to set myself up for fate. And if we really are ment to be and something happens while he is away at school I don't want something stupid to tear us apart forever. Ill take any advice at this point. I've been worrying about this non stop. And have talked to family and friends and they all seem to be giving me the same advice, and that is to break up with him, becvause he is going away and ill be home. I just really don't want to do that.
Thanks for your help
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Okay let me start by saying I am in a similar situation both me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years now and we will both be leaving for college in a couple of weeks and like you im terrified!
I love him with all my heart trust him with all my soul and no he would never do anything to hurt me..but that still doesn't prevent the worrying and the what ifs.
What if he has no time for me?What if he meets new people and forgets me? or I have no time for him?or we can't make the effort or we never see each other..
Those feelings are totally normal but just because he is going away does not mean you have to throw in the towel and accept that you are going to grow apart because you might not. You won't know unless you try. The fact that you two have done it before for six months shows a lot don't you think?!
You seem to really love each other and that stands for something.
I know you hear of stories of couples going away for college and swearing their undying love for each other but parting anyway,but everyone is different. You have to try for yourself if he makes the effort and you do continuously then it will work. If it doesn't then it wasn't meant to be.
It's scary going from being able to see your boyfriend so regularly to not as often but i'm a firm believer that true love conquers all as cheesy as that sounds!
That's why me and my boyfriend are gonna work through whatever college life throws at us..sure there is the temptation to just break up when we want freedom and no pressure with a college social life making new friends and all that...but is it worth it for a few years of drinking and partying knowing you let someone so special to you go? that is how I see it any way. The fact that he doesn't want to take a break shows he is willing to work at it.
Don't throw in the towel try because if you didn't you never know right?
I wish you all the best and hope everything works out for you.. you sound like a pretty strong couple the fact that your 19 and 20 says a lot too. More maturity :)
If you need any more advice at all my inbox is always open!
Much <3
Jess 17/f
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Seems you really do and him want to work.. well look at it this way.. you guys went through 6 months together , who says you can't do it again? no one is telling you to break apart! Dont do that ,do what you and him want , what your heart tells you to do. Everything will be okay ,just relax and take a breather, if he really does love you , don't worry if he meets new faces and everything he knows that he loves you and not them and can only have them as friends , he probabaly met new people at that 6 month period and look you guys are still together , if you want to be with him , nothing is stopping you , you guys both love eachother , so im pretty sure you guys can make it work :)
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