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convincing my mom to let me see an R rated movie
ok im 12 years old about to turn 13. I want to see a movie that is rated R but my mom won't let me see it, even though shes let me watch other R rated movies before. How can I convince her to let me watch it? (Please don't say that I'm too young to watch it anyway, I need advice not a lecture)
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theres not much you can really do other than ask her to watch it really convince her tell her that a few people you know have seen it and it's not all that bad and if that doesn't work than the only option you got is to ask her to go watch it with you then she'll see how much it means to you
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LM gave you some good advice. I'll take it a step further. Before going to mom and asking her what her objection to this movie is. Think about the "R" rated movies she has allowed you to see. What about these movies, in your mind made them "R" rated. Now think about the movie that you want to see. Try and identify what it is in this movie that is different from the others that you have seen.
There are many things that it could be from frontal male/female nudity to soft porn. Once you believe you have identified the reason for moms objection you can then go to mom and ask her, politely and calmly, what specifically she objects to in this movie. Since you have already done your research as to what you believe her objections to be you can now calmly discuss why her objections may be out of touch with today's reality.
There is a saying knowledge is power. If you go to mom with knowledge of what she may object to with a valid counter opinion you might just surprise your mom not just with your opinion but with your maturity. This works in just about any situation where you face an objection. Research the subject matter and prepare a counter proposal to the objection will always put you in a better position; for most people do not expect a well thought out counter proposal to their objection. What they expect is an argument. Arguments can be walked away from counter points or proposals require people to stop and think, even parents.
I've been a salesman for most of my life and this is how I stayed at the top of my game. I never expected my son to use this on me until he did. When he did he won more than he lost. Why, for one thing I admired his creativity in finding a way around my objection by using my own skills against me. For another his counter points at times told me things I did not know and gave me reason to rethink my objection.
I don't know if this will work with your mom but it is worth a try if you really want to see that movie.
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Since you've been allowed to see other R rated movies before, there must be something specific about this movie that your mom is uncomfortable with. Before you ask your mom again, educate yourself. Research the movie and discover what it's rated R for - a movie gets slapped with an R-rating if there is more than one F-bomb dropped (a couple exceptions have been made, but it's good to keep in mind for a "language" rating).
Ask your mom what is stopping her - whatever substance matter is bothering her about it. This could be a good opportunity to open up a discussion about sex, drugs, etc. If she remains firm, try and respect her opinion. She's your mother and you ought to respect her opinion about this - not worth losing her trust over. In a few years, you can watch it on your own! :)
-LM
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