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HELP!!!!!!! I think i am not lettin guys in!!!!!!!!
Ok so one time.....i thought i was in luv.....i was in luv.... but one time we were with a group of friends and no one knew how i felt and how he said he felt....and he said in front of everyone that i liked him and he only pretended to like me and it waz all fake and he broke my heart and really embarrassed me and this was years ago.
Now i REALLY like this guy and we hang out a lot and talk and are really close friends and dont keep secrets from each other. I think he likes me bak and he has been giving lots of signs but he also has been giving lots of mixed signs, my friends and i and also some of his friends thinks he likes me but i am not sure.
I am afraid that if he ever asks me out or if he says he likes me and i say i like him bak, it would of been a joke or a dare from a friend so he would of made a big deal out of it or go off telling all his friends and embarrassing me because sometimes he is that sort of guy that makes big deals out of every thing or goes of telling his friends even though we are great friends too.
am i just afraid of telling people in after what happened or just feeling insecure.
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Some of this is your paranoia from a past experience, and some of it is based on observations of how this guy behaves. That first guy you mentioned was a fool and a tool. He thought he was being clever and putting you down, but he was revealing the shallowness and untrustworthiness of his character. He demonstrated how small of a person he was. He basically showed all his friends that he was a fake, willing to use other people and hurt them for his own gratification, and that he could never be trusted. In truth, it was himself that he made a fool of.
The very nature of romantic relationships requires taking risks and being vulnerable. There is always the possibility of being hurt or embarrassed, but this can be minimized by taking the time to really get to know a guy, so see if he is a mature, safe, trustworthy, genuine person before pouring all your insides into his hands. What kind of friends does he hang out with and how does he treat them? This will give valuable clues as to how he is likely to treat you.
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THere is nothing wrong with protecting your heart. How about just waiting for him to make the first move and then you follow. If it does turn out to be a game on his part then you will know how to handle things this time around. However, I highly doubt the same thing will happen again. If with the last incident where the guy broke your heart I think he did have feelings for you but young guys tend to be dumb and let their friends dictate their actions. His friends probably teased him about you and thats why he played you off. They were most likely jealous as young people are. So, don't worry too much about it. Enjoy your youth and have fun. Don't worry because if this guyisn't the one I promise you there are plenty of guys who would be lucky to be a part of your life.
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