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i need advice on a dream
My dad was killed in 1994 by a guy who was smoking pot and drinking. they both died due to high speeds dont want to share to many details still really pain full always will be. i lost so much time with him and barely remember his personality at all. the point of this is i have been having nightmares about it that bother me and im really nice and quite most of the time can be a smartass but since these nightmares of him ive stopped socializing ill i feel is sad ness pain and fear. cause to add on to that my mom is now getting ill survied cancer and all but recentily had a heart attack and now she is drowing lungs are filling up with fluid. i tell my girlfriend everything but reasurnence only gose so far when you already know how bad it hurts to lose a dad some siblings and now maybe my mom last dream i was looking at both my parents graves in present time its bothering me and i dont know if i should bottle up all the pain or let it out. since your majoring in this i thought i would ask you and im 19 male in diesel tech the problem with this is if i let this bother me to much or cloud my mind i could get hurt or killed in my line of work and ive been intering for 2 months at a time???? how should deal with this advice please.
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I'm so sorry that you are going through this. well, i think that you are having these dreams because you feel the same thing is going to happen to your mom. I'm sure you try not to think about that during the day. But, in your subconscious, it's there. Your thoughts start to race and you wonder what it would be like to not have your mom there. The nightmares are appearing because you build up all this fear and all these worries. It has nothing to do with reassurance. If you can't reassure yourself, than no one can. You have to be the one to reassure yourself and tell yourself everything is going to be ok. As much as others can tell you, they can't get inside your head and make you change your mind. I understand that when you are going through something difficult, you become introverted because you just want to deal with your feelings. When I found out I was adopted, a few days before starting college, i became extremely introverted. I didn't do anything. I wish I could tell you that there was a magic formula to make yourself relax a bit. Believe me, we could all use it. But, you should pay attention to those dreams because your worries are reaching ALL THE WAY into your subconscious. Your working memory is in the front of your brain. The back is your subconscious. Your whole brain is filled with worries. Try drinking cammomile tea. You can also purchase it online. Other flower essences will work just as well. I take them when I start to feel sad, nervous, or anything negative. If you've never tried/heard of them before, do research. There's a lot of benefits. But, remember, no one can get inside your head and change it. You have to find it within you to try to change the way your thinking. I hope I helped and I hope everything works out for you. I'm so sorry you are going through this and you will be in my prayers. God bless xoxo
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