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painful intercourse months after birth, is this normal?
I had my baby girl about 4 months ago. I didn't have any tearing or anything that they found. However, she was stuck under the pelvic bone for several hours, resulting in 3.5 hrs of pushing. I am trying to find out what can be wrong ...it is still a SEVERELY painful thing for my husband and I to try and have sex. It's making my self esteem horrible and me upset knowing that we can 't or if we do it's painful. It almost feels like the underside of the inside just inside is bruised or damaged..I get horrid pains when it hits that area, it feels like its smaller and hitting something now...which doesn't make sense..you'd think it would be quite the opposite. Also, that skin that is at the back/bottom of the vagina (before the perineum) is extremely sensitive...Can something be wrong?
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As voiceofreason wrote this is a question that only your OB/GYN can answer. I suggest you make an appointment with the doctor as soon as you can. Until then refrain from intercourse until you see your doctor.
I'm sure you want to care for your husbands sexual needs as well as your own. Fact is neither of you can be having any type of satisfactory intercourse if it is painful for you. I'm sure if you two have been married long enough to have a baby you can figure out other way to handle your sexual needs until you see your doctor and find out what the problem is.
Fact is there is nothing strange about your situation. Your doctor examined and treated that which he/she could see after delivering your baby. If there were going to be any other unforeseen problems, such as you are now experiencing, those would have to be treated when you reported them.
This is your body, your doctor is trained to care for you and your body. There is nothing you can tell your doctor that should embarrass you or your doctor. You have told complete strangers some fairly intimate details why would you be embarrassed to tell your doctor.
Once you get the all clear from your doctor, if it is affordable, do as voice of reason said and have an escape weekend. If it is not affordable ask one of your parents to take the baby for the weekend anyway and spend the weekend at home, just the two of you, relaxing and doing what comes natural.
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One thing at a time.
First, let's take care of the pain issue. See a gynecologist and he/she will be able to answer your questions in a fuller way than we could.
Also, the recovery time from a pregnancy differs depending on the individual. I know you feel an obligation to your husband to attend to his needs, but it is your body. He will just have to wait for vaginal intercourse for a little bit longer. It isn't your fault plus it doesn't help that you now have an infant whose needs have to be attended to frequently on a daily basis, which is stressful.
Once the pain is alleviated, then you guys can start having regular sex again. But what I think you should do is have your mom babysit the infant for a weekend while you and hubby have a little getaway so you can have some relaxing private time. Then you will comeback refreshed in both body and soul.
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