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Boys -- Stuck in the middle
Well, my story is a little complicated, but it goes like this...I have been dating a guy for a while now and I believe we are a good match. We laugh together, we can have fun together, I can totally be myself when I am around him. I am so in love with him. It may be crazy to say, but I could see myself marrying him. There is just one thing getting in the way of my happiness...my ex. Everytime I am with my boyfriend, I am always comparing him to my ex (not out loud of course). Sometimes I think about my ex when my boyfriend and I are together and I just can't shake it. I am come to realize that I am jealous of my ex's new girlfriend, I'm not sure why. I wasn't with my ex as long as I have been with my current boyfriend and I know my ex and I will never work out, so why am I wondering how things would be different if we were still together? Why do I always look for him in the crowd? How can I get over him???
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Sometimes I have the same problem with my ex, but I think of the more current crushes that I have, and I completely forget about him. If you start to think about your ex, then start thinking of your current boyfriend, and you won't even remember thinking about your ex.
But I do agree with Voiceofreason. The only thing you need to do is move on, and be happy with your boyfriend. Besides, if you see yourself marrying him, then you're on your way to moving on.
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This is easy:
Women compete with each other for attention. What this does is make them jealous of each other and you may feel that you lost him to her. The most constructive thing you can do is short circuit this by being rational about it and finally moving on. You can't change your relationship situation so you might as well be happy with what you got. We can't be greedy and controlling because those are signs of insecurity.
Keep life simple. Don't overthink, don't compete with other women and don't let anyone sabotage how you want to lead your life. Take control and rock on.
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It sounds as if your current boyfriend is the rebound. I'v been in the situation before. you feel like your current relationship is wonderful but at the same time, something is missing? do you find your self thinking about your ex when you fight with your boyfriend? youre already thinking of your ex while with your boyfriend because something doesnt feel right. sorry to say, but he's a rebound. This doesnt mean you need to run back to our ex. it means you have to get over your ex and you keep thinking about your ex because of his new girlfriend. you feel like she took your place. its perfectly normal to feel that way because you still care for him. you just have to realize that you dont need your ex. how do you get over him? this is how: first you stop all communication with him if you havent done so already. second you need time for yourself. this means no boyfriend. if you care about your current boyfriend you have to break up with him. why ruin something great when you can save it? you said you see your self marrying him but that will never happen as long as you have feelings for your ex. your current boyfriend can help you through the process of gettng over your ex by being your company when you need to workout or watch a movie. take him more as a friend instead of a boyfriend. no kissing or holding hands and especially no sex. learn about yourself and your interests. find your true self and what you are worth because if you dont know what you're worth no man will believe it either. really think about everyones emotions in this and not just your own. overall, think with both your mind and your heart because they work together. if you think too much with one, you screw yourself over. follow that gut feeling side of you. I hope everything works out for you sweety! best of wishes.
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