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Accepting the truth..
The last time I spoke to my father was in 2009, To make it simple he choose to a life with his wife and decided to walk out on my sister and I as well as 4 grandchildren. I was at a local super center walmart about 3 months ago and walked into a Subway while my dad and his wife just happened to be in the corner, I did not make eye contact nor did I exchange any words between the two. I am still very angry over the fact that he had choose to walk out.
My friend of 13 years decided 3 months ago that we've grown apart and are in different stages in our lives. I can't come to terms too how she doesn't even acknowledge my existence especially when she lives in the apartment building next to mine.
Now what I'm asking is, How can I except the fact that people have moved on with their lives so I can learn to move on with mine? Another issue I've always had is processing "time" My partner keeps trying to get me too realize that 2 years is a long time, 3 months is a good while and while it all feels to me just last week. I can't even come to terms with the fact that my own father didn't even acknowledge me.
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Your question is a bit convoluted. You've got a bunch of separate issues.
You are bitter. You are being hypocritical. You seem to speak with pride that you refused to even make eye contact with your father due to your anger, yet are surprised he didn't go out of his way to acknowledge you and act agianst your obvious desire to ignore him? That's a very confused state of mind.
So, therapy. Start to talk to someone calmly and rationally about these patterns of thinking that are causing your confusion and the pain of not being able to let go - they are also contributing to your anger. It's okay to be angry and to choose not to have contact with someone, but the degree of anger and irrationality you are experiencing - that is something you need to unpack.
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