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Why are Boys Confusing?
It all started on facebook, about a month ago, I recognised a name that had popped up as "suggested friends." We had graduated High School together, of course I added him. So, he accepted and started talking to me on there and then we started texting. We were flirting back and forth. He told me that I'm beautiful, that he liked me a lot and why he likes me. Then, we accidently ran into each other at a town event. It was random but nice, unexpecting too. Well, the event was Saturday and he usually texts me first but Sunday and Monday I texted him. I know it's just a text in all but today's Tuesday and he hasn't texted me. I know it could be a possibility that he's just busy and wasn't thinking or something. But do you think he no longer likes me? I need advice! Like, should I talk to him? What should I say? Should I just ignore it and move on? Just talk to him like friends?
All appreciated! Oh btw, I'm 19/f and he's 20/m.
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Actually, guys are really simple. Don't project on them that they have the same mental processes that women do (that is, the tendency to overthink everything).
Either his phone has some malfunction and he hasn't resolved the issue or he decided that he really didn't like you as much as he previously thought.
Here is what happens when you connect with someone on the net: one tends to project everything they want as a mate on the other person and almost idealize them. Communication via email and text is a highly edited exercise where one doesn't really show the totality of oneself to the other person. In other words, one basically sculpts the verbal image that they want the other person to think they are.
But when you meet in real life, sometimes things just fall flat. It turns out there isn't that much chemistry at all. It's not your fault and really doesn't say anything about your attractiveness other than this one person's sensibility has judged you to not be what he wants (apparently). It happens. Don't fret over it. Move on. Sometimes rejection can be the best thing that happens to you because it opens new possibilities.
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yeah boys can be confusing like that haha. they like to play with our minds.. :/
you can do 2 different things. You can make the first move and talk to him. That will show him you're interested in him and want to get to know him more. Or you can ignore him and let him chase you.
it depends on how you like to play the game. each person is different. I like to play hard to get, so if i were in this situation, i wouldn't text him and make him wait. But you could be entirely different. Its what you want to do. Nobody can make the decision for you.
good luck!
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reality's a helluva lot different place than cyberspace. ever see season 12 of south park? theres an episode in which stan's sister has an internet boyfriend, whom she finally meets in person... its pretty damn funny, and applicable in your case. talking with somebody online is really easy. doing it in real life is a different story, because now you don't have a whole bunch of "1"s and "0"s behind which to hide. Stop using robots to communicate, and start hanging out with him.
-Gunner
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