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my mom treats me horribly
I have posted a question like this before, and in hopes of my situation getting better, I stopped posting. However, it has not gotten better.
my mother treats me like shit. She calls me selfish and evil. She always wants me to be popular and get more active when I prefer to be quiet and by myself. She always brings me down. She tells me how much I remind her of my father because I am such a "selfish heartless ungrateful ass" and she always complains how I don't get anything done in life. I'm only sixteen and she has brought me down ever since I turned fourteen. She always tells me how stupid and slow I am when I don't do certain things right. I am very forgetful and she calls me retarded. When I tell her she makes me feel so horrible about myself she laughs and denies it and makes excuses. She even threatens to knock out my teeth and hit me and make me bloody. I feel horrible and depressed and nothing ever changes when she wants to talk about it. She hits my one year old baby brother for crying when he doesn't want to sleep and makes me baby sit him on school nights. She gets pissed when he cries for me and complains that I am nothing but a selfish bitch. I need help! Please.
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This maybe hard for you but you should report this to the authorities. No one should go through abuse. Your mom really needs to seek help.
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I would suggest you talk to a trusted teacher or school guidance counselor. If your school has already been dismissed for the year you can still talk with your school principal who will be in school for most of the summer break. They will know what to do and have been trained to handle such matters.
What your mother is doing is called child abuse. Her threatening to punch your teeth out is called assault. Assault is when someone threatens you who has the means and the ability to do so and you are in fear for your life or from bodily harm. When mom threatens you in this matter or should she ever strike you in such a manner, regardless of whether she damages your teeth, you can call the police, child welfare or both.
You have not said were dad is. Does he live with you? Is he supportive of how mom is treating you? If dad is not living with you, have you told him? A little sidewalk psychology here; since this behavior from mom is somewhat new, being in the last two years, mom could be taking out her anger with dad on you. Just a guess on my part and still wrong of her to do so.
Please contact a trusted adult and ask for help. It is the best thing you can do for you and your brother. Your mom needs help. Something has happened within the last two years that has made her this way. By calling child welfare or the police or talking to a teacher or your principal mom will get the help she needs.
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Oh gosh I'm so sorry :( I haven't experienced anything like this but I can't possibly imagine the crap you have to go through.. You are so brave and strong, especially for a 16 year old.
Do you have anyone you can talk to about this? someone close and personal? your father? best friend? relatives like aunt or uncle? grandparents? teachers? school counselors? Try to talk to someone about this and let them know. Preferably someone older because they can handle it better. Your mother is not a good role model at all... in fact, she could be arrested for child abuse. Child abuse is emotional, verbal and physical abuse. So the fact that she is threatening you and saying these horrible things to you, means she can get charged with that. If that happens, she might go to court and lose custody of you and your baby brother.
You said that talking to her won't solve anything. So I suggest you stop talking about it and start ACTING on this. Take action immediately. Don't just stand there and take it. This is where talking to an older person comes in. They can help you especially help you get out of the house. At times like these, your mom really needs to stay away from you guys and be alone to think about her actions. If possible, you could even get a restraining order so she can't come near you without some kind of guard/police.
I'm so so sorry you have to deal with this. Inbox me if you have more questions.
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