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husband and his ex
41/47yrs
I feel like my husband of 5 yrs still loves his ex wife..with whom he has grown childred. when ever there is a family activity that involves their kids. She is overly friendly (she has boyfriend)and acts like she belongs in the family. btw he owns a buisness and hired her to help him run it. He gets mad at me if I ask him if he has feelings for her. they divorces becuase she cheated. I now will not go to family functions theres no room for two wives. I feel threatened by the way he allows her to interact with his family and he says nothing. yet gets upset with me if Im uncomfortable. am i wrong ? she also stole money from his buisness yet he does nothing, he must still love her
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It's tough, and I'm going to give you an answer that these kids arent.
I was married once. I had a family and a wife and she cheated.
I have someone in my life now. I will never go back to that chick... ever. That being said, I simply cannot erase what was in my life for those few years.
Here's how it is, your husband has kids with this lady. You can't ask him to put the mother of his kids out in the street. (Well you can, but that makes you look like the bad guy)
I'm sure the two of you have had multiple talks about it. I'm sure it's not easy. But you have to be aware of what you got in life.
I would set definite ground rules. I would request that you get to handle the employees (If you have stake in the business... or maybe suggest you get a third party to manage her because it is a conflict of interest for him.) If she has stolen money, she should be prosecuted, but beware he probably wont put the mother of his children out for criminal charges.
After setting ground rules, I would not stay away from family functions. You are the Matriarch now. It is your family too. You can't let anyone win and you cannot show weakness. HE married you for a reason. Remind him of that, If he says he still loves her, move on, but dont jump to conclusions. She broke a line of trust and his heart. HE probably would never let that happen again.
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I recommend sitting down with your husband and expressing how you feel again, Let your husband know that you feel she is interfering with your marriage and you feel as if she is a threat. YOU are his wife, She is not.
Your husband owes a business and failed to take proper actions against his ex wife for stealing from the company.
The golden key to any marriage/relationship is communication, As husband and wife you two should be able to maturely discuss any matters that come to concerns. If your husband is not willing to listen and talk things out the only think I can suggest is marriage counseling. If your husband is not willing to consider that then as sorry as I am to say your marriage is looking grim. Marriage counseling is the last straw before filing for divorce. She has crossed too many lines and your husband is allowing her to gain access. Harshly, If you really want the answer you seek then you let him know it's YOU or HER but I will tell you honestly I believe you know what you have to do.
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thats fucked up. sit him down and have a talk about this. you are his wife, not her. she lost that job for a reason, and you need to remind him of this.
-Gunner
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