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am i a bad parent?
i'm not together with with the father of my children and i don't let him near them. he is a very bad person; he dose drugs all the time, gets drunk, gets in fights, hurts his family, smokes, and doesn't have a job or an education. he loves me and our kids but he is easily made angry and he used to take his anger out on us; yell at me a lot, has hurt a few times, cussed and said very inappropriate things in front of our kids. so i don't want him putting the kids though that anymore. dose keeping my kids away from there father make me a bad parent?
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NOOOOOOOOOOOO you are not a bad parent. You are doing wants good for your children. So many abused mothers even fathers stay with the abusive spouse cause of the guilt of being a bad parent. I know Im not anybody to you but i cant express enough you are doing the right thing for your children for them to have a healthy life that they deserve. Kids don't understand right now but they will as adults. Stay strong for your children it will pay off in the future. Best of Luck to you.
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No. I know someone who had a psycho wife. She got so into drugs that it was decided that she give up any claim to custody of their kids. So he's raised a couple of kids with no help from her and the kids have been better for it.
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Short answer to your question: No, you have a absolute right to protect your children.
A more in depth answer involves your husbands rights. As their father he does have certain rights to see his children. If you are separated or divorced the legal paperwork for either should spell out both parents custody arrangements. If you are not legally separated then you need to file for a legal separation with custody arrangements legally expressed in the document. You will need a lawyer to draw these documents up for you. If you need there is legal assistance available threw such places as the House of Ruth.
As to the custody arrangements: This is something that will be a negotiated settlement. I would suggest, based on what you have written, that you try for supervised visits for your husband and the children. In this manner your children and your husband get to see each other with someone there to supervise. If something gets out of control the person supervising can terminate the visitation and remove the children to a safer place.
It is importance to have a legal separation in place while divorce proceedings are pending, if this is your direction. The separation agreement is for the protection of you and your children. The agreement spells out what is expected of both you and your husband as well as custodial custody of the children, visitation rights, health insurance for the children and just about everything else that is important to their well being.
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not at all. If he ever gets his shit together, then consider letting him back in their lives. but until then, you are entirely justified in your actions.
good luck
-Gunner
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