|
I don't know how I feel about him now...
So there's this guy... Matt.
BACKGROUND: He is seventeen, a junior.I am fifteen (sixteen in a month!) and a sophomore. We have been close friends since freshman year. ALL of freshman year I dated a boy who was horrible to me. Matt hated that boy for that. My ex would yell at me, curse me out, shove me, hit me, and tried to force me to do things (sexually) for him. When the boyfriend dumped me, Matt helped me through everything that followed because the ex was even worse to me when we split. At one point he almost got in a fight with my ex... Which was notttt good. But he would let me talk to him and cry on his shoulder and vent. Matt and I would text everysingle day and hang out and I can say I liked him but... he was talking to another girl. That was in the summber. In the fall we both dated other people. We seemed to split at the same time in the winter and both of our break ups were pretty rough and I guess we helped eachother through it... That was around winter break. Since winter break we text like everysingle day. I mean it... everyday. Everyone used to say we were "secretly dating" But...
THE PROBLEM:
I don't know how I feel about Matt now... I think I like him... I really do because I'm getting jealous that he's now talking to this girl at another school. I just wish I knew what we are or were or whatever... But I think it's too late to talk to him about it. I mean he said himself that he and this girl were NOT a thing but that he "kinda" likes her and that he wants them to start talking and they're going on a double date... I just feel like that he might be leading me on... If I DO feel that way about him. Because we talk all the time, he's extremely flirty and touchy, he asked me to prom... but at the same time he refuses to be alone with me. We've never kissed or held hands reeeeally... I just don't know what to do! I just want to yell and him and be like ARE YOU STUPID?? ARE YOU REALLY THAT OBLIVIOUS?? HOW CAN YOU NOT SEE THAT I LIKE YOU?!?! It's really getting to me... Please helpppp me.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
He may feel that you aren't completely on board with the idea of being his girlfriend. That he brought up the other girl was a message to you that you had better start showing some love or he is going to shut you down. Guys only have so much patience. So you better tell him you want him NOW and in pretty direct terms. And your heart had better be 100% into that concept or things will get even messier for you.
]
I had the same problem with a guy recently. Maybe I can help you deal with it better than I did :) Maybe you should just sit down with him (since you said that you guys have been close in the past) and ask him what he really wants with you. Be careful, because this might put him on the spot and make him defensive, but on the other hand, he might actually tell you what he wants. Look up his asterology sign, because that might help you to know what he'll do if cornered with a question :) hope that helped!
]
More Questions: |