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How do i know if she is "the one"
So, i've just broken up with this girl. Actually, we both did it, since she is kinda too young for me i guess? im 18 and she is 16.
I keep trying to erase her from my life because the pain is just too strong, and she is doing the same thing. She stopped texting, deleted me off FACEBOOK, stopped calling, and she ignores me whenever i call her, ON PURPOSE.
And i found out why. I always thought that it was because she was soooo "done" with me, like she said and her friends said.
But the real reason why is that she is scared......... She started texting me again last week for almost a whole day, then she suddenly stopped because she realised thats he was falling for me again, and thought that having a boyfriend would keep her from "living a normal life" and i personally think it is BS, because i know DEEP down that she wants to be with me. She is just so goddamn influenced by her friends, her mom, etc.
How do i know if i should keep pursuing this? Or should i just get over it. Because fate tells me that she is the one, but how do i know? I mean, im a guy, with a big ego, who could easily get girls, so it is fairly easy for me to get OVER girls. But this girl.... omg i just dont know. No matter how much she blows me off, I STILL want her... and i know she wants me. How can i convince her to just follow her heart and to stop listening to her friends? Is she the one? HELP!
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In life we all have that special someone that we truly love and sometimes we dont realize it until we lose them. Love is a mysterious and tricky thing.
If she gives off the vibe that she still wants to be with you and you do too then you should go for it. You both shouldnt let what others may think or say decide what's best for you. Only you guys can decide that. If you feel she really is THE ONE then you should talk to her. Be nice and tell her exactly what you feel for her. No matter how things go if you tell her what you feel for her atleast she'll know you truly did love her and cared.
I let the one i truly loved escape me so i know how it feels.
If you need anymore help message me on here or e-mail me at rcmshady@sbcglobal.net i'll be more than happy to help you
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Back the hell off.
Seriously. Your arrogant presumption of knowing what she wants and what is best for her is no more acceptable when you do it then when her mom and friends do it. You do have a big ego, and this girl is struggling to stand for what she wants in the face of so many egos. You want to be a respectful and decent human being? Take your ego out of the equation. You can't stop other people from doing it, but you can be the bigger person here and stop it yourself.
She is trying to make choices. Let her make them. Stop the judgement and belittling of her. Stop the arrogant assumptions of her desires. It's not just egotistical. It's ugly. Even if you are perfectly right about what you think she is thinking: Your conceited and self-referential vision of her is an ugly thing.
She IS following her own heart. Right now it is taking her away from you. Respect her enough to accept that and believe that if her heart leads her back in the future, she'll follow it then. She is not an idiot child. She is a young woman who entitled to choose, even choose wrongly.
Stop being one more person tugging her around with your own desires, opinions and judgements of her. It's looking rather mean-spirited of you at the moment.
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