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Unable to get aroused... trouble reaching orgasm
I am 25 and 5 months ago I had my second child (20 months apart from my first one). I am breastfeeding, and I have noticed my period has been really off and weird. But I also noticed that I cannot get aroused at all..and even if I try masturbating alone I can never reach a climax...It is very frustrating for both me and my husband.
Is this normal? and is there anything I can do to fix this??
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My fellow geezer is on the money, though what I would add is that your husband needs to start dating you again to revisit those old memories that may help rekindle your sex drive. Some women feel like "a mom" and not so much the sexy thing they were before pregnancy and so the sex drive can get switched off under those circumstances. Engaging in dating behavior again can re-start the engines, as it were.
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I'm 12 and I know the answer to this question. You had kids so it screws around with sex drive, but if you want to keep your dude turned on you try jacking him off or blow jobs. If you continue 2 try and arouse yourself try awesome porn- porn maxe every1 horny including Catholics. Lolzxxz =D
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather. I hope the wisdom that comes with age and life experience will be helpful to you.
There are a few questions I would have liked answered before I tackle this question, though I think I know the answer without them.
Your 25 years old with one infant and the other child being still an infant or a toddler. On top of caring for these two children it is very possible you work outside the home as well. You still must keep up the home, do laundry and cook the meals. Even if you husband shares this work load to some extent, this is a lot of work for one person.
The most likely answer is you are just plain tired. It is hard to become aroused when you are tired, then add to that the fact that with two young children at home; regardless of how much you may want to have sex, you cannot turn off your mom instincts. Part of you is going to be listening for one of the babies crying.
Being 5 months postpartum you could be suffering some effect of postpartum depression.
My advise is to do 2 of 3 things:
First: If possible see if one of the grandparents can watch the children for a night or weekend. Having the children away for the night or weekend will allow you to relax and turn off the mom instincts. You should be able to relax, become aroused, climax and enjoy sex with your husband.
Second: Grandparents not available; hire a babysitter and go to a motel for a couple of hours with your husband. It may just be enough to allow you to turn off your mom instincts.
Third: This is the must do, check in with your OB/GYN. I don't believe your period being off is a big think but then I'm a male and not a doctor. It is worth discussing with your doctor. Your doctor can screen you for postpartum depression. This is a common illness and nothing to be ashamed of, especially since it is easily addressed by your doctor.
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