|
answering questions
According to her doctor, the hematomas are through out her brain and she was born with them. She had surgery because one of them ruptured. She started telling this lie after surgery and we all have tried to talk to her but she refuses. One of the sad thing about this mess is her husband believes her and so do her friends so they also refuse to talk to us about it. I have tried numerous times to contact her, writing letters, email, texting and in person but she doesn't answer the messages and in person, she walked away from me. Told me to let it go and this is the best way. We were a close family but like I said before this has been a complete nightmare.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
Hi again.
As I said earlier this may be a result of the brain trauma she suffered. Given the present laws on medical confidentiality the best you can do is make mention of it to her neurosurgeon. Whether the doctor acts upon the information in any manner is something that cannot be reported to you without a specific release of information from your daughter.
Right or wrong this is something that she believes is true. This is her perception of the facts. She perceives it therefore it is. To your daughter whatever she is telling everyone that has happened to her, in her mind it has. While you and your other children no this to be false, to your daughter this is as true and factual to her as the fact that the sun rises in the east. Because this is her current perception of some fact or fantasy.
It is (quite) possible she may have been raped or touched inappropriately by someone when she was younger. That she saw this person as a father figure. Now after the surgery this memory has surfaced and she now perceives this as your husband.
I cannot really be sure as I am not a trained therapist. It might help you and your husband to seek counseling from a trained therapist who will help you understand better. This therapist will also be better able to help you approach your daughter and open up a better line of communication. Possible even act as mediator to help bring your daughter in to family counselling session(s).
Before I retired was a Sales Manager. I use to tell my people the hardest objection to overcome is one of perception. For if they perceive it therefor it is. Proving a perception wrong is the hardest thing to do. It takes time, patients, and sticktoitiveness. You have a sale worth making. I hope you will work towards the goal you want for how ever long it takes. You can change perception it just takes time.
]
More Questions: |