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Change of heart
14/f
Each year, my junior high school has a "last dance," which is similar to prom. One of my boy friends asked me to it, but I said no because he was (and still is) really weird and kinda unpopular. But he's still really nice.
After that, things got kinda awkward and we stopped hanging out. A few weeks ago he sat with me on the bus and now he's talking to me again. I realized I actually like him, despite his weirdness. He's not afraid to be himself and doesn't care what others think. He likes all the same things I do.
Anyway, he told me he really likes two girls and he told me who they were (not me). I really like him and want to go to the dance with him, but he still thinks I don't like him. What should I do? Please help me!
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Well, as someone else pointed out, guys are pretty straightforward about these things. Does that mean you can't fix it? Not at all! It just depends on how honest you are ready to be.
Before I give you the fix to this, I want to ask you a question:
If a guy refused to take you to a dance because he was shallow, thought you were weird and was ashamed of being seen at the dance with you... how would that make you feel?
That is what you did to this guy. And he probably doesn't feel great that you treated him like this. He will probably hide those feelings, but he knows what you did, and probably why.
So, now that you realize what you have done... are you willing to be honest about things?
If you go to him and say something like: "You know, I am really sorry I said no when you asked me out. I was being a stuck-up snobby bitch, and I was more concerned with the opinions of other people than your feelings.
Since I made that mistake, I realized what a special person you are, and I have grown to like the fact that you don't care what other people think. I am really sorry, and if the offer still goes, I would live to go to the dance with you."
Don't do this any way but person to person, face to face.
If you do that, and the guy has any feelings for you at all, you will have your date for the dance. :-)
No matter what happens, remember this for the future.
I am really proud of you for realizing you were acting like an elitist snob, and trying to do something about it so that you could grow into a better person. Way to go!
Good luck.
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Rectify the mistake fast. Guys don't work like girls do, our thought processes are based much more in logic than emotion. Logic tells a guy that when a girl you like stands in front of you and tells you she likes you back that you forget about other girls you might be interested in asking out at some point.
We also sometimes tell girls we like other girls to see if you like us enough to have a jealous reaction. Probably about a 50/50 shot on that one.
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If you want to go to the dance with him,. just ask him:) There is nothing wrong with girls asking guys to dance or on dates.
Goodluck darlin
~Jasmine*
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