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it hurts so much
so me and my boyfriend WANT to have sex, were going to use protection and everything, we have talked about it.
last weekend i had the house to myself, he came over...
but we he went to put it in i froze up and it was very painful, he didnt even have it in.. is there something wrong with me?
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u are normal hun. foreplay may help to relax and get u really into the mood for it. Dont over think the situation just relax and go for it. Have fun :)
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this is perfectly normal because having sex for the first time for a girl is really painful because your hymen is being broken so it tears there isn't really anything you can do to make the pain stop but just ask your boyfriend to go at a slow pace until he's fully in then it wouldn't hurt as bad you're going to have to face this eventually and after you've broken your virginity you'll start to enjoy sex so this is just a one time thing so to make it easier try setting the mood right like the lighting and get some nice candles this will get you in the mood
best of luck!
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather; hopefully the wisdom that comes with age and life experiences will be helpful.
Julie75's answer is most likely the correct answer. There is also another answer that comes to mind; which is you subconsciously may feel you are not ready for sex and your body may overriding you conscious thoughts. It's all very psychologically based.
You say you and your boyfriend WANT to have sex; do you feel pressured at all by your boyfriend to have sex? This is a key question as to how you feel about a sexual relationship.
Boys very often almost to a fault mistake lust for love. Boys need very little to no stimulation in order to make love. Where as for a girl there most always be some form of loving relationship before they enter into a sexual relationship. Girls almost never mistake lust for love.
Girls, especially for a first time encounter must be stimulated and relaxed be for she will allow a boy to penetrate her. Most young boys do not know how to make love. They have one goal when having sex which is to climax in you.
I don't think anything is wrong with you. I think that subconsciously you may not be ready to have sex and are doing so for possibly the wrong reasons. You wouldn't be the first and won't be the last girl to do so. Your current boyfriend is most likely not going to be the boy you marry; so why allow him to coerce you into giving him your most precious gift? There are other way to satisfy his sexual needs while you make sure he is the one you want to give your virginity to.
The following website is one I usually recommend to girls that write to us who are questioning if the are ready. Since you are having trouble being penetrated and it is my feeling you may not be ready; I think you should look at this site before you try again.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location).
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No, you're perfectly normal. It's normal to get very nervous when you're doing something scary for the first time. When he went to go inside of you, your vagina muscles tightened up and wouldn't let go. Try lighting some scented candles before you start and have him give you a sensual massage to really help you relax. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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