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I'd just like to drop by and say thank you for your answer. Maybe it is something to do with emotional detactment. My parents divorced whe i was 5 and ive lived with my dad since then. I haven't been with my mom since she hasn't been concidered well, a "proper" parent. Would it have something to do with not having a mother figure? I mean, i have a stepmom, but i dont see her as my mother or anything, i dont really have anyone to look up to except my dad, but i allways thought that my dad was enough. What do you think?
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I am sure it has everything to do with that. That would be hard on anyone no matter your age or gender. Getting close to a step-parent seems like something most people do not want to do. For some reason there are walls between stepparents and stepchildren and often times they are walls that can be torn down if someone will take the first step - then it is possible for a wonderful relationship to grow. Stepparenting can be hard because you automatically feel like you have to earn the child's love- something that is just a given in most cases with a real parent. I know I do not know your situation but if you are willing, maybe you could take a small step to try to to form a relationship. Sometimes writing a letter is easier than talking. In the meantime, maybe you could sign up for a women's mentoring service. Most churches offer that for free. You might even mentor someone yourself because that can be so rewarding as well. Don't give up though. If you know where your mother's is and if you have her contact info, maybe you could write her a letter also - let her know that you were hurt from her not being in your life for whatever reason (another words no matter who's "fault" it is)write all the things down you want to get out but most important, choose to forgive her - that will help you heal from this. If you don't know her contact info write it anyways - get it all out and in the end (after you have truly thought about it and decided to do it) write down that you forgive her and that you choose to heal from the pain. Then you can throw the letter away or do whatever you want with it but it will help to get it out. Keeping it pinned up inside is not healthy. I will be in prayer for you and for your healing and growth. You can take this and learn from it and allow it to help you make the right choices when you become a mother one day. Feel free to write back if you would like. Wish you the best!
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