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Afraid of going to college far away and being all alone
So I'm almost done with my first year of college and I'm transferring for my sophomore year. I found this amazing college down south that has my major and pretty much everything i want, it sounds perfect. I'm just scared that I'll be alone. That's my biggest fear. I have two best friends that i would die for up here and my family and everything. I guess I'm just scared I won't make any friends. I'm a super nice person and i make friends easily, but I've never ever been "the new girl" or the girl coming in knowing absolutely no one. So is there anyone out there that went to college far away not knowing anyone and how did it turn out?
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Consider this a part of transitioning into your next life phase.
I say this because, while I went to a college very close to home, eventually you will have to be the new person somewhere, even if it's when it comes time to get a job. You can't always bring your friends to work ;)
I work a great job. 40 hours a week, Friday through Monday. Did I know anyone when I started? Absolutely not. Not a soul. Not a person in my training class. Not a person in the office building at all.
As a matter of fact, I grew up in North Carolina and I'm currently living in the Northern part of the Mid-west. MAJOR difference. Talk about being far away from home! ;)
And, while it was scary, it's a part of life. Being the newbie is a part of the transitioning.
If you experience it while you're young, it'll be easier to deal with. You'll know what to expect from people who are also new and people who are well-adjusted to the environment already.
Leaving two friends behind to transition into your next phase is okay. You can still communicate with them, and still see them occasionally, but it opens you up to meeting new people, building new friendships, and learning new things, even though they are all currently out of your comfort zone.
So, I say, go for it if you're truly interested in this other college and everything else (family, finances) are accepting of this. Don't let being "new" ward you off because, like I said, eventually you will come to a part in your life where you will be forced to be "new."
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heyyy!
okay so listen... i was scared for a while too because i am in the same position as you right now!
but here look at this way.
MOST of the people going to the four year college are new and left their friends for college, but its the best experience out there to grow to a new group of people and you'll have a roommate! its perfect.
It does sounds scary but there will be so many people coming to the college like you feeling the same way.
if you are a social and nice person you should have no problem!
its new for me because i have been in the same town since i was 7 years old.
but you have to do what you have to do.
AND I PROMISE IT WILL A BUNCCHHHH OF FUNN!
<3 hope this helps and let me know how it does :]
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I went to a college, not way to far, but about an hour away. I only had my cousin, who I didn't even hang out with. So i basically was alone too. Your best bet is your roommate, esp. if they have already been going to the school. You'll become friends with them and their friends. Talk to people in your class. Make lunch dates. Its hard, trust me, but you HAVE to put an effort in it. It'll be scary the first month but it'll get better! promise!!
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