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Should I talk to her?
I am fifteen. My mom recently found out I am dating again. Due to past relationships that broke off badly and left me in a horrible depression, I have been not allowed to date. But my mom didn't seem upset or angry at all when she told me she found out. I want to talk to her and tell her she can trust me not to make all the bad decisions of sex again and tell her I know what I am getting into. I'm afraid she's bluffing so I will spill the beans faster.
Is she bluffing or should I talk to her?
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If you don't know you should find out. In an idyllic world your mother would understand the effort you put into honesty and would try to communicate with you and would appreciate you keeping her involved in the decisions you are making in life.
Maybe that'll happen. Maybe it won't. At least you'll know if you want to have these conversations in the future.
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You should talk to her - even if she is bluffing.
'Cause if she is bluffing, the longer you leave the more severe her reaction is going to be. If she is bluffing, then her anger is growing and she will turn this into "You betrayed our trust by not telling us something you know we'd forbid you to do anyways!"
Which is not really fair. I hate it when parents use that kind of entrapment on thier children. It's just nasty oneupmanship, not honest and clear bounderies and rules. If she is bluffing you, she is behaving badly. You can't change it, or really fight it, but know in your own heart that she didn't treat you kindly if that is what she is doing.
If she isn't bluffing, but does in fact has the respect for you that you deserve, then your conversation will be well recieved and it will take the strain and anxiety off of you both.
So, either way, telling is your better opition. It almost always is.
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