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IS SHE BI?! (see details)
holy s***. please help me. i was just texting one of my best friends (we r both girls) and for a while now i have had a few crushes on her that were on and off. (i think i might b bi curious but im too scared to tell anyone) so last nite i had a dream and the only thing i can remember is us making out and when i woke up i texted her so we texted a few times about our hair and stuff and so i was telling her how nice her hair looked and i said it was so pretty and she says "its because i have magic fingers lol" and b4 tht she was saying that my hair was long and beautiful when i said i was thinking about cutting it. so i wanna know if she was like flirting or if im just making a big deal out of nothing and if, judging by what she is saying to me, if she might b bi or not. thanx so much!
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Guy here.
One of my observations as a guy is that guys generally won't complement other guys unless the guy has done something particularly exceptional. In my case, I was complimented on a beard I grew and that I've kept since.
Women, on the other hand, tend to work a bit differently. They love complimenting each other. Sometimes, they have these tribal gatherings, where they pull out goop and mud and food items and dress their fases up with these strange concoctions. They call these events make-over parties. Some persue these things into middle-age. And yes, they compliment each other on their looks while doing it.
Now as a guy, and a lonely (perhaps slightly a misogynistic one at that, based on that last paragraph), it's easy to take a compliment from an attractive lady to heart a bit too far. The "cure", then is to put it into context.
In this case, you were talking about your hair, and she paid you a nice compliment. If you're attracted to her sexually, chances are you took it to heart, just as anyone who sought a fleeting chance at romance with her might.
But there's the rub with being gay: unless you've got a finely tuned sense of gaydar, it's hard to find people who share your sexuality outside of community watering holes, gatherings, or disco halls.
If you intend to stay in the closet, err on the side of caution, understanding that you'll probably be doomed to fighting against yourself until you finally come out. Otherwise, gauge her feelings on homosexuality by making a few comments in passing about the subject, and assess whether she could take the bombshell ("I...er... like you. Like that."), or if she might even accept a date invitation ("Lesbians? Love 'em!").
Good luck!
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I guess the real question is weather you want to seek out a relationship with her or not. I have a lot of girlfriends that casually flirt but most of them don't want to sleep with another woman. I had my first make-out session with a girl when I was 16 and I loved it. I didn't have actual sex with a girl till I was 18 but I was afraid of what people might say about me if they found out too. Today, people are much more accepting of your sexuality, so you shouldn't be to afraid to seek out your sexual side. If you want to find out how she really feels about you, invite her on a few friend dates and then over to watch a movie. If she sits close or touches you when she's talking to you, she's probably interested in you. If you invite her over to spend the night and she readily accepts, that's another sign she may be into you. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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She only was commented saying your hair was beautiful,. as in you shouldn't cut it.
As far as her being bi,. This doesn't really point to anything related to bi curious.
I think you are just kinda freaked out about having a same sex related kissing dream. This is perfectly normal. It happens to everyone of us. It's not something to be ashamed about or anything. If you ar Bi curious,. That is perfectly okay too. Your at a stage where you are trying to discover who you are.
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