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I'm not understanding what he wants...?
20f. Ryan 19. This is going to be long but I've been dealing with this so long I need guidance :(
I met Ryan at the end of summer through a mutual friend. He was so sweet, respectful..i could tell right away he wasn't like the other guys i talk to. Anyways Ryan ended up going to play hockey in South Dakota (3 hrs away from where I am) He still texted ME every day, I never once texted him first. That was a nice change. He went to South Dakota in September and didn't get to come home until Christmas break and it was only a week. So Christmas came and he only was home for a week. I wasn't going to bother him to hang out I figured he would want to be with his family and close friends since he didn't get very long. Surprisingly he asked me to come over. So I did. It was a good time, he was so sweet. Then a day before he was going to go back to South Dakota, he wanted to see me again. So I went over again and we hung out. Things were really good. He then went back to South Dakota. Well then we were talking and I was like me and my friend are thinking about taking a little road trip to come see you for the weekend in a couple weeks what do you think? And he was like do it!! KEEP IN MIND...he was still texting me every day and things were great. So January came and me and my friend drove 3 hours to go see him play hockey and hang out with him. It was thursday night and he invited us over to his billet parents house. so we went over there, met some of his teammates and just hung out. but i could tell another one of his teammates were hitting on me and flirting with me. Ryan noticed and was kind of joking around like "What do you think your doing talking to my girl...do you wanna fight? Lets go" I was like aww thats kind of cute that he was jealous. Then Friday came. He texted me before his game and then after his game. But never said anything about hanging out?? So Saturday came...he texted me before his game and also after again and once again never said anything about hanging out. He said he was just hanging out with the boys. I was a little irritated.. we came to a different state to see him and he only sees us ONE day? Well saturday night i get a text at midnight from his teammate that was hitting on me. he wanted to hang out (i could tell he wanted to hook up) and i was like ummm well dont you think Ryan would be mad since were like "talking"? He told me to ask him. So I asked Ryan how Nick got my number in the first place and Ryan said he must of took his phone in the locker room and got it that way and I was like okay so why is he asking me to hang out? And he was like i don't know but go for it. And i was like umm no i dont want to hang out with him and it bothers me a little bit that you dont even care that your teammate is trying to get with me? Then he goes on to say I can't do this anymore..i don't wanna talk to you blah blah blah. it came out of NO WHERE. just a minute ago things were fine and we were texting and then it all of a sudden changed and he said he didn't want to talk to me anymore. This went on for about two hours where he was saying things and then finally I tried calling him because i wanted to figure it out and he ignored me.
Me and my friend left that Sunday morning and I didn't hear from him that day or like 3 weeks later. Then he randomly texts me saying the dumbest things..something like: "Whats up slut..are you watching jersey shore? Hope your bangs have been clean recently!" I replied "Grow up" then we started arguing again and i said i didn't do anything to you why are you acting like this! and then i was like ok can we please just be civil and at least be friends and maybe hang out in the summer when you come home? He agreed.
THEN we didn't talk for a month, and I was on facebook and he ended up chatting me. He was like hey how have you been? And i said really good how about you and we started talking. But then i was like ok i'm not trying to start a fight with you but i just want to know why you were talking bad about me to your teammates after that weekend (i heard he was) and he was like nobody has said anything about you since that night. I was like ok well i mean so if i see you am i supposed to just ignore you or what i don't know what you want. And he said something like "idk i'm not really worried about you right now" and i said something else and he never responded. I haven't talked to him since, so it's been like a month.
I just don't understand. He texted me every day, he was the one asking me to hang out, etc I was never annoying or clingy. It came out of no where. The sad thing is i really miss him :( it's hard going from talking to someone every day to not at all. And he was really sweet ..all of his friends and teammates said he is the one who treats girls right. But he's so weird about it. I don't understand. What do you think I should do? I haven't said anything to him since that weekend we went there in January, he's the one who said something to me twice since then. I just miss talking to him a lot. I wanna see him when he gets home in the summer but i don't know if i should text him if i haven't heard from him since he's been home? He'll be home late April. I know he hasn't met any girls there ..he's playing Juniors he's not actually going to college so there playing hockey 24/7 and he even told me when we were talking (when we were on good terms) that there were no girls worth his time there and that he was only interested in me. and his teammates also said they don't hang out with girls cause they focus on hockey. So i don't get any of it ...any suggestions?!
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yeah, i know it sucks from talking to someone everyday to none . but getting over him is the best thing right now, if it was meant to be than in the summer you'll see(:
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Guys are the most confusing creatures ever. Isn't it weird how one minute they tell you they love you and the next minute, they want to break up? It's hard to know how a guy's mind work sometimes and it's really hard getting used to the feeling that they're not there anymore. To be honest, don't push for the relationship, if he's not willing to fight for it because you're just going to be wasting your time. I, too, am going through a breakup and it's only been about a month and I still haven't found closure. It takes time to heal, but I think it's best to put the past aside. It's weird how he got jealous and then called you a slut.
Maybe one of his friends told him you agreed to meet him and whatnot. The fact that he didn't even want to tell you what the problem was means he doesn't want to fix it. As unbelievable as that sounds, it's true. Just try your hardest to let go. I'm trying to do that as well, as difficult as it seems, but you will eventually get there.
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