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i have 2 friends who hate each other...
okay so i have 2 friends who really hate each other for no reason at all and one day i said one of their names to the other person and they blew up so i started yelling at her and she started calling my friend a bitch and a liar. i told her if she kept doing that i didnt want to talk to her and now we arent friends sort of. i am best friends with both of them and i dont care if they like each other i just dont want them to hate each other and blow up when i say there name. one of my friends doesnt care if i say the other ones name but the other is getting really annoying about her. i have no idea what i am asking for just help please!!!!!
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You need to act as mediator here. Send them an e-mail telling them you value their friendship but cannot stand the fighting even if one of their names comes up in the presence of another.
Ask them if they value your relationship to please sit down with you and another adult to work something out to at least be civil in your presence. Put it nicely or they both could bail on you or dump you.
The other approach is to cut hem both off if they won't stop and let them figure their own shit out as it's their issue and come back to you if they truly want your friendship. That's a last resort and often backfires. Try mediation and explain as gently as possible that it's ruining your friendships.
These two are immature and not acting very smart if someone's very name causes them to go off. Maybe if they see how dumb they are behaving and get embarrassed they'll start mending the fence. Btw, do you know what the real issue is between them? If so it gives you something to work with here.
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If either of them are your real friend, they'll tolerate your other friends. If they don't, talk to each of them about it. You should explain the good qualities to them and why you're friends with both.
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