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Am I addicted to drama?
My friends think I enjoy drama. I'm always in the middle of things, even if the drama isn't my fault. I swear, I'm only involved when my friends ask me for advice. In fact, I get asked for advice a lot. And I'm such a pushover, I always end up helping them out. And I get involoved in so many issues, and so much is in my head, sometimes their secrets just slip out. I can't help it, its like- my head is too full.
For example, one of my closest friends was dating one of my other closests friends. She just broke up with him, and hes absolutly wrecked. Hes been talking to me almost constantly since that night, trying to figure out how to deal with it. Oh, another very important fact- I have a huge crush on him. So to be honest, I'm completly keeping this advice going so we can get closer. I didn't wanna admit it, but thats kinda it. And now I'm starting to get a little angry with him, because he can't move on from this girl.
But I love it! I love how people go to me for help, I love how all my friends can trust me, I love how I'm the one people go to. But sometimes... its too much, you know?
Ok maybe I'm asking for more than just advice on if I'm addicted to drama. Just... what do I do with all this? I'm sort of lost right now. I feel like its kinda screwing with my social life in general.
Thanks so much :)
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Uhhh... It's kind of hard for me to organize everything that you said. So, let me just summarize this. Basically you like your close friend's ex boyfriend, and he's one of the people who's coming to you for advice. But because there's so much you're hearing and so many people coming to you, you're telling other's secrets on accident? But you like the fact that people go to you, and you're trusted, right??
I know you're asking if you're addicted to drama, but you also sound like you're wondering what you should do about your close friend's ex boyfriend. First off, I was in your position once, everyone was coming to me for advice as well. I had a best friend who broke up with her boyfriend, I didn't like him. But for some odd reason, he came to me for comfort and advice. I was so trusted by other people, but this one time. A secret slipped out to him, and guess what? Drama. At the end, I lost all of my friends and I only had 1 or 2 of them, and they lived so far away from me. Almost the whole school turned against me, and the bad word was coming across the school. Just accidentally letting out one little secret... Who they didn't even say it was a secret.
My advice to you, is that you're not addicted to drama. I think you're just too caught up with liking your friend's ex-boyfriend. Even though she broke up with him because he's 'absolutely wrecked' did you ask her if she still liked him? Does she know you like him? If you were a friend, and you care about her feelings, you would ask her before you just go for it.
It's good that you feel good about feeling trusted, but just warning you. That trust will soon disappear if those little secrets keep slipping out. So make sure to think before you speak! Because drama, will not come out pretty. There will be tears and everything will go downhill.
You're feeling frustrated with him because he's not getting over your friend right? Well, you can't MAKE him get over her. It's good you want to get closer to him, but having you try to make him like you while he's depressed about your friend, doesn't that kind of make you the rebound? I mean, that's just the way I see it. I tried doing that once, but I think time is medicine for him. All you can do is just to be his friend. So this is what I think you should do:
1. Ask your friend about her ex-boyfriend. If she still likes him. Is it okay if you like him? If she still likes him, I hope you know what to do. It'll kind of be backstabbing if you went for him if she still wasn't over him. Just do it just in case!
2. Have more patience with him. If your friend is okay with it, you can be his friend. Cheer him up.
3. Try to keep other's secrets out of the conversation. How would you feel if someone accidentally spilled your secret?
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