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i feel like i'm stupid
(18/f) my parents are always on my ass about grades, same with my little sisters. one of my sisters (15) has always had A's and B's in everything, so she was never an issue. since i started highschool i've gotten D's and even F's on my report card, and needless to say, this isn't acceptable. my other sister (12) usually got A's and B's but she's been getting C's and my parents flip out over it, and my mom just told me thats because she scored advanced on all of her test scores. my other sister and i scored proficient. for some reason, this is really bothering me. they tell me i'm smart and could do better, but now i'm not really sure. i have a horrible memory and can't study. i can just never concentrate enough to even bother.
but this is pissing me off mostly because now i know both of my little sisters are smarter than me and i don't even really think i should try anymore. its a little late for that, anyways. i have about 3 months left of my senior year and then i'm finished with grades. i don't plan to go to college.
is there any possible way i could take an IQ test or something? now i'm just curious. am i not trying my hardest or am i, in fact, stupid?
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People learn in two different ways; as I found out with my son. There are visual and oral learners. The ones that do better with people actually teaching them, oral, usually also suffer from some form of ADHD, Attention Deficit Disorder. This sounds a bit like you and what it took the Army to diagnose my son with and thankfully they did.
Once he was properly diagnosed the military was able to teach him,he excelled in his military studies and was the Honor Graduate from his Advanced Technical School Training. This was a big change from a kid that I was once told to teach to ask "do you want fries with that order."
Today he is a Paramedic who has a number of life saves to his credit. He took what the Army taught him went on to College, made up what he was deficient in and was the Honor Graduate from his Paramedic class. He was also a Deans List Student all but his first semester in College.
Yes I'm proud of what my son has accomplished and you can do as he has done. You test with a HI IQ yet you have a problem learning just as he did. What you need to do is be tested for ADHD. This is something your family doctor can test for. If I am right and you are like my son, once you are on medication you will be able to concentrate more.
The next step is to enroll in one of the independent learning centers where one on one teaching can be obtained. They will not only help you make up the work you are deficient in, they will help you learn from the main stay teaching methods.
You probably have a learning disorder that is undiagnosed. This is something that can be over come, you are not stupid by any definition of the word. I should not be saying this but your parents are wrong to get mad at you for something that is not your fault. Learning comes easy to your sisters and it will for you once you learn how to deal with your learning disorder.
Your biggest problem is your parents don't understand how two of their three children excel in school and they are frustrated because they want the best for all their children. That is the job of all parents.
My advice is: You make an appointment with your family doctor. By law and the fact you are an adult, as you are 18 you can see the doctor without parental supervision. When you are with the doctor explain just as you have to us. Ask if it is possible that you suffer from ADHD. If the doctor agrees then ask the doctor to explain this and how it has effected your ability to learn. I believe once your parents are aware of the problem they will no longer be mad at you and most likely be mad at themselves for not seeing this.
Then you can search out a proper learning center to help you.
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Ok honestly, grades to me aren't really about IQ, they're more about how hard you try. Its all in your head. Yeah you could take an IQ test, but that isn't gonna solve your grades issue. Sorry.
You probably think I'm being rude about this, but I'm sorry this is just my opinion. You don't need to believe me at all.
Good luck with everything! ::]
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