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Dating Dilemma: We are hitting it off... but we WORK together. Should I date him?
This is really short: I work with this great guy and we are really hitting it off, but here's the problem -- I work with him. I kind of promised myself I wouldn't date someone who I worked with just incase something didn't work out since I would still have to see him everyday. But I ALWAYS feel this way with guys, whether I work with them or not (I kind of have a wall up).
Everyone says I need to take chances to actually find love, should I?
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I am going through the EXACT same thing right now - I work with this guy I like but I have a wall up. I think for me it's more a trust thing. I always anticipate that I will get hurt, because I do hurt easily.
I keep saying to myself that im not doing anything with him (and he has actually asked!!) because I work with him and that's not professional but I think that's just an excuse for me to hide behind. Don't let yourself fall into this trap too - ask yourself if working together is really the reason you are the way you are.
Another reason I'm not with this boy is that I know his past - he's a player, and quite a mean person when he wants to be. Ask yourself if the bad parts of him are outweighing the good, and if you think he could change. I suggest a pros and cons list, just make sure it's for your eyes only - you don't want to offend anyone!!
Finally, ask yourself why you have a wall up - if it's something like an ex cheated on you, ask yourself if this new guy would ever do something like that? Hope I was helpful, goodluck Hun! X
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First off, does your work have a policy against this? Some employers might have grounds to fire you because of fraternizing at work.
Would it effect your work performance? Do you two have the ability to remain professional at work? And would you have to keep the relationship a secret or could you be open about it at work?
If it won't jeopardize your career, then I think it may be a risk worth taking.
But would you be okay with seeing him and interacting with him every day if you break up?
If you are willing to take all of that into consideration and it still seems worth it, then go for it. Just see where it goes right now and have fun. Theres nothing wrong with meeting someone at work.
Good luck,
-Abby
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