|
Doesn't want a relationship with me...or anyone...
Okay, so my boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me a few days ago...I was devastated of course...I broke down crying in front of him. He told me I'm beautiful, sexy, smart, funny, all those wonderful things, but he says he went into this blindly, and just isn't ready to have a relationship with me...or anyone, because he has issues he needs to work out and to concentrate on raising his daughter. He also said that he never really felt any "love" for me, but just a strong friendship. He kept telling me how sorry he is and says he still cares about me and wants me in his life...I haven't spoken to him much, but one of the few times I did, he told me to call him whenever I was ready to hang out with him again...I want to, very very much, but I'm still very much in love with him...I also happen to work with him. When I saw him at work the other day, I just broke down crying and couldn't even look at him. I think that has pretty much ruined any chances I have of getting back together with him romantically, since guys seem to like 'strong' women, right? I don't know quite how to go about this. Has anyone else ever experienced this? What came out of it? Is there still a chance for us in your opinion?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I have been both in his place and your place so I know what I'm telling you that its not easy for him to see you like that. It's natural for you to feel bad and still want to be with him. He tells you he still wants you in his life and thats fine it shows that he's not a complete butt head and cares about you. Another thing you have to look at is if he tells you that he isn't ready to be with anyone at the moment its fine he's trying to avoide hurting you a lot more than your hurting right now. think about it. Well judging by expierence I'd say that maybe some day there could be a chance for you guys if hes ever willing to try it again but you most not put your hopes up and hold your breathe because there could be a chance of you guys just staying friends well only if you let it. See he wants to be friends and I understand that your not ready to see him that way talk to him tell him that you need time give yourself time and when your ready try the freindship thing you might find it a good thing because that way you have him in your life still. Hope this helps you make a choice your comfortable with.=)
]
No. He broke up with you. He said he's not in love with you. He couldn't have been clearer. His only mistake is thinking that you could be friends. Clearly you'll need a lot of time before that could happen. Don't torture yourself with thoughts of getting back together. Save your tears for when you are alone, and even if you have to fake it for a while at work, keep your chin up and act like nothing is wrong. You can break down when you're alone. I know it seems impossible now, but you will heal in time. For now,do your best to stay out of his way until your heart isn't so sensitive anymore.
]
More Questions: |