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its a 'jungle' down there
hey, sorry if its in the wrong column and long
hi, im 16/f
well, my bf and i have been dating for 4 almost 5 yrs now and our parents and siblings get along great. we both really love each other and we'r even taking it to the next level (after kissing) ;). i know that i may be too young, but im almost 17 now and it will be the 1st time for both of us, and we WILL be using a condom. i would love to take the next step in our relationship but there's 1 problem. i dont know how to put this but i have a jungle down there if you know what i mean. and i dont know how he will take that cause i read online that one of the top 10 ways to end a r-ship are poor grooming down there. plus im not exaggerating this but HIS PENIS might get stuck in that bush while trying to get in MY VAGINA. so what im trying to ask is is there any way i can make my "jungle" disappear. i need an answer asap caus we're gonna have sex next friday night, as a valentines day gift seeing how we have school on mon we'll be celebrating on fri. first a day out together doing what we want to do and then dinner and back to his place for the night. his parents will be gone for the weekend and his brother is staying at his friends house. but my parents are ok with me staying the night at his place cause he will be home alone and its better to have someone with you and not throw a prty while your parents are gone. but thy do not know of the sex part. so should i tell them that ornot cause they wont let me stay with him then and i dont know what to do. so please help me with those 2 questions. thanks very much :)
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First things first; I'm a male old enough to be your grandfather and I answer questions on this site to offer the wisdom my many years have brought to me as well as the insight I have come by. Most importantly I want to put forth the truth so you can make the right decisions about questions such as the one you are asking.
As to your hair. The purpose of the pubic and vagina hair is one of protection that dates way back on the evolutionary scale. Some men like a hairy women and some men don't. As to your boyfriends penis getting stuck in your hair, it won't happen so don't worry about it.
There was a time when men wanted a hairless woman so women would use different methods to remove this hair. Today it appears the pendulum is swinging back to women with hairy pubes. At one time my wife and I made it a part of our foreplay for me to remove or trim her pubic hair. I would do so using scissors and a razor.
If you are truly concerned with your pubic hair you could use a scissor to trim the hair in front of your vagina. Then you would have no concern with your boyfriends penis getting caught in your hair.
I would suggest before removing the rest of your pubic hair you allow your boyfriend to see you in all your womanly glory and the then both of you can decide how much or how little hair to remove.
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If you have a really close relationship with your mom, then you can tell her after the fact but you can leave out the details beforehand. Now for the jungle, try to find some barbers clippers to start. Use them without a hair guard and cut away the heavy hair near your vagina up to the top of your clit. You may want to keep some hair on top but trim it down until you see what you like. After that, get a nice new razor, get in the shower, soap the area well, apply shaving cream and carefully shave your area. You may want to find a small mirror to help out. If it fogs up, use some shaving cream on it to keep it clear. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Easy fix.
Despite what the media might have to say about it, a full Brazilian wax is NOT necessary! In fact, a lot of guys I know think it's a little creepy when a girl is totally hairless.
Grab a clean pair of scissors and trim, and if you feel like it give the sides (what would show if you were wearing a bikini) a shave with a new razor. Make sure you do any shaving as close to when you're going to see him as possible... razor burn tends to set in after a day or two, and you don't want to be itchy and bumpy.
As for telling your parents: It's very possible that they already know. No parent really wants to picture their kid having sex, but no parent would give their kid permission to go spend a night unsupervised at their boyfriend's house without assuming there's going to be some hanky-panky.
I'm going to be perfectly honest: I didn't tell my parents. I was on birth control anyhow, so I just didn't see a reason.
If you do want to tell your parents, maybe something along the lines of "Boyfriend and I are thinking of having sex. I really want to be safe, and I want to know what you think" would do nicely. That way they can help you to get on birth control (condoms are effective, but not 100%) and help you deal with the emotional consequences.
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