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i like a girl and i am a girl
well im 18, and ive always been attracted to girls in a physical way but never had a crush on them or anything. ive been hooking up with girls since i was 15 but ive only dated guys and been in love with guys. lately theres this girl that ive been hooking up with just when we get drunk and want some fun, but im starting to get feelings for her. Shes one of my best friends so i love and care about her a lot and weve always hooked up and done pretty much everything there is to do. Shes fingered me, ate me out, all that stuff. We usually only hooked up when we were drunk but the other night we were completely sober and did it. i really like her, and i get jealous when she talks to other guys. I know shes hooked up with other girls before but she claims not to have feelings for girls like that. She calls me her girlfriend to everyone and we hookup all the time, yet she still keeps talking to other guys and even was dating one while we were hooking up and stuff. My question is, do you think she likes me like that? enough to be in a relationship with me? since she said she didnt like girls like that, ive been telling her the same thing, so now im too afraid to tell her how i really feel about her. truth is, i love this girl and i wanna be with her. i just dont know if she feels the same and i dont wanna tell her because shes my best friend and i dont wanna ruin that if she doesnt feel the same way about me.
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I was actually in the same situation with two different girls. I was having fun with them and thought things were cool just being booty calls and I was still having sex with men but after a short time, they approached me about being exclusive. One wanted me to move in with her and not see anyone else and the other wanted the same without the moving in part. I was very flattered that they felt so strongly about me but I wasn't in a good place in my life at the time and let them down gently. I explained that I loved being with them, hanging out, drinking and the sex was great but I couldn't make the commitment to be faithful. So, sorry to drone on about me and back to your problem. If you don't want to lose her as a friend I would suggest try going out on some mini dates with her. Start with lunches, then the movies, a spa day and then maybe dinner or a night club. You'll find out a lot about how she feels about you when she's in public with you. How close she sits to you, how she touches you and does she want to make plans right away after you've just been out. These are all signs that can lead you to her feelings. If you're still confused after a month, just sit down with her and tell her how much you enjoy being with her and you'd like to be her girlfriend. She may turn you down and you'll have to respect her wishes and you'll need to move on or keep on being her friend and let things be the same. If you need any other help, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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actually it sounds like she might be scared to be in a relationship with a girl because she is scared of what others may think. I dont want to say she's a homophobe because that sounds a little extreme but do other people know she likes girls? i mean maybe she hasn't come out? or maybe shes scared of being in a relationship with a girl for the first time? alot of girls find comfort in guys because they're bigger, and stronger and provide more protection so maybe thats it?
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