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My mom won't let me have an email address.
I've been asking my mom for an email,but she keeps on saying no.How can I convince her to let me have one?
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You did not give your age, which makes it hard to answer this question. For the purpose of this answer I will assume you are a very young teenager or possibly younger person.
Just for the record I am of the age that I am old enough to be the grandparent of anyone under the age of mid 20's. When I answer questions I tell it like it is regardless of the type of question based on research when I need to and the wisdom my age has given me. I never sugar coat the truth.
That being said, I believe I understand where your mom is coming from. The Internet is a wonderful place, a great invention to spread communication and a place to research information, which makes it a learning tool as well.
The Internet is also a dangerous place as well. This is where moms problem takes hold. I don't believe that it is a trust issue she has with you or that she wants to totally invade your privacy by reading your E-mails between you and your friends. Lurking in the bowels of cyberspace are people who are out to do you harm. They are very good at attracting young people like yourself into doing things they should not be doing. Like going someplace to meet them. You may be talking with them on the web for a long time when they ask to meet. The fact remains they are still strangers and may not be who they have you believe they are.
That is the danger of the web. Young people have not developed the internal security alarms that we as adults have developed. As young adults the thrill of the unknown is almost over powering. This is where parental control comes in. What you see as an invasion of privacy is a protection for your safety and well being. You will say to yourself many times between now and the time you go off on your own; "I will never be this way with my children." Don't bet anything of value on that because you will be and may be even more strict than your parents are with you.
The primary job as a parent is the safety and well being of their children. This is something we learn on the job as children do not come with owners manuals. We constantly have to adapt to a changing world. Our parents had many of the same worries they we now face but without the added impact that the Internet brings.
If you are as young as I believe you may be I have a suggestion for you and your mom. There are two ways she can give you your own E-mail address. Web browsers like yahoo all have E-mail. In the settings area for any E-mail address you can have the mail forwarded automatically forwarded to moms' E-mail address. Mom can set up an E-mail address for you then go into settings and have any in coming mail forwarded to the family E-mail so she con monitor. The other way is to set up an address for you and allow mom to know the password so she can access your mail. Also you only read and send E-mail, mom does all the deleting and storing.
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Say "I would only email you and my friends only"
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tell her what you would use it for, sometimes to receive emails from teachers, or friends, sometimes from colleges. anything that you would use it for if not......(make one secretly) but yea tell her honestly.
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