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Scared to tell him... dont know if he feels this way....
Ok. I'm gonna try to make an insanely long story as short as possible. We'll call my ex J and my guy friend M. J and I broke up eight months ago. J was VERY BAD to me. Let that just be enough information. M helped me get over him and get over all the harm he caused. He basically became my best friend. He has always helped me through problems. I love him. I have basically always had feelings for him since last summer when J and I broke up. But he had a girlfriend and I was still broken and damaged from J so I knew it wouldn't work. Ever since winter break we've been texting everysingle day. He is the ONLY guy I have found that when I talk to him I don't think about J or want to be with J. Because even though he hurt me so bad, I still want to be with him... I told M this. Not that I liked him but that he was the only person I could talk to without wanting J. I said I didn't know why. M replied with "You can handle him yourself honey, you're not as dependent on me as you think. I know you can do it." But I AM dependent on him. He rarely texts me first anymore... and he seems more distant. He said something about a girl he thought was hot and the pain I felt... I never saw it coming. I didn't think I liked him this much but I DO. And now that my ex is trying to get me back I really need M. But I don't think he likes me... we do talk everyday but I start the convos but then he gets mad if I don't reply... he tells me I'm beautiful and he hates J and I deserve so much better than J. And he makes me smile. He geniunely makes me happy and lately that's something I haven't gotten much of. Happiness. I can't let this slip away. But I'm so scared if I tell him the truth it will ruin our friendship forever and that would hurt more than anything else. PLEASE HELP. I am fifteen, sophomore. M is 16, junior. T is 17, junior.
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well, I am m/14, but I have liked one of my best friends when she had a boyfriend, so may be I could help you.
first, try to make sure he doesn't like you. if there is a chance he likes you, just tell him you like him, but tell him you don't want to stop being his friend if he doesn't like you.
if you are completely sure he doesn't like you, then just enjoy your friendship a lot, and try not to think about him as more than a friend. Some day you will wake up a notice you don't like him anymore, but you still LOVE him, as a friend.
I hope I have helped you.
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I think the best thing for you to do is come clean to M. The fact that he gets angry when you don't reply shows he wants your attention and if telling you your beautiful isn't a hint that he likes you I don't know what is!
Having had a sort of similar situation happen to me I told the guy I liked him, regrettably things didn't pan out the way I wanted, but by the sounds of things you and M are a lot closer friends than I was with the guy I fancied. Still, we remained friends after I talked to him about my feelings and I'm sure M would with you :)
If things work out romantically then fantastic! But if they don't, I wouldn't get too disheartened - at least talking to him about it will verify where you stand and then you can move on. And to use the cliche - there are plenty more fish in the sea, especially at 15 :)
Good luck,
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