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I'm 13/f and he's 13/m. What are some signals or things I can do to show him that I like him more than a friend? I don't want to have to tell him but what do you think are some things that he could catch onto and figure out himself. I'm also pretty sure that he likes me too. (link)
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This is an age old question that I myself and dealing with now still at 18!
So basically what I've gathered from various internet sources and my own experience is several key steps.
1 - Break the 'touch barrier' i.e. a little playful nudge during conversation, a tap on the shoulder - nothing too over the top :) This should send him some form of signal that you are comfortable around him, and that spending time around one another is easy. Build the contact up to a hug in time and gradually, it may not be the best idea to just jump on him for a hug out of the blue hehe :)
2 - Smile...a lot. A smile can say lots, a flirtatious grin every now and then can start to get the message across.
3 - Look into his eyes and maintain eye contact - when chatting to him, give him your full attention, at the risk of sounding cheesy the eyes are the window to the soul, anything your thinking can be piked up on when looking somebody in the eye.
Hopefully your crush should begin to get the picture, if not honesty is sometimes the best policy, get him on his own and when the time is right tell him how you feel. I know this is nerve wracking but could be worth it!
Good luck,
The cat's pyjamas x
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My "summer love" was a disastor, we have nothing but awkward memories, and it ended really bad.. h finding out I lied about lots of stuff.. my cousins finding out i lied to them too.. and that's it, that was the end. But I can't get over it, I could probably get over the obsession with being with HIM, but I can't get over the obsession wih seeing him again and making a better impression on him,, except I probably (most likely) wont get to see him again because my mom never wants to go back (she caught me sneaking out over there..to be with him) and he probably wont want to see me again even if I travel back.. and my cousins wont let me see him again.. so really, I should get over it. But can't. All I dream about is my next impression, how to make it perfect.. but I know it wont happen, so how do I get over it?!??? thanks (link)
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Righteo, trust me when I say I know what its like to be unable to stop thinking about someone 'unobtainable'.
You say that you probably won't see him again between everything and it ended badly so the chances of a second chance are slim at best am I right?
So don't waste time and energy thinking of could be and what if situations. My trick is to, whenever you start thinking about him, stop. Its hard but just stop, tell yourself that you shouldn't be thinking about him and think of something else. For me, as stupid as it sounds, if i was about to go to sleep and found myself starting to dream about seeing 'him' again I'd physically gesture putting him out of my mind - along the lines of Dumbledore in Harry Potter with a pensieve kinda thing haha.
But it worked! I hardly think about what's his name now ha :)
This way if you run into him again at that off chance you won't have spent x amount of months dwelling and waiting in hope - a better state of mind to be in! If you do run into him just be pleasant, don't bring up the past unless he does. The past is for yesterday, its the present you should focus on!
I hope this has been of some use, if not at least a little entertaining when picturing someone acting like a wizard in order to get over someone :)
Good luck,
The Cat's Pyjamas x
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k i posted this last night but i checked today and it still hadn't been put up so here
hey
15/m
k so i spent literally about....10 hours with my twin brother, his girlfriend, and her best friend yesterday at six flags/brothers gf's house and before yesterday i had began to think about trying to ask this girl out *i always get REALLLY nervous about talking to girls/asking girls out* and so i had intended on trying to make a move yesterday, and by the end of the day i still hadnt done anything...so i sat next to her in the car on the ride to my brother's gf's house for dinner and a movie, and it was about a 20 minute ride...and i STILL never made a move on her...
so we had some imo's pizza and then went downstairs to the basement to watch legally blonde, so i sat next to her on the couch, and still after about 30 minutes i hadn't made a move...
then i got up to go get another soda since i was done with my pizza, and when i get back my brother and his gf had taken over the couch, where me and the friend had been sitting...so i never got to make a move AFTER 10 HOURS!!! am i totally retarded for this? i mean, the girl seemed to like me, but i'm not really sure...i sat next to her on like...every ride...and we talked a lot all day, and all that stuff, but i don't know...should i have made a move, or should i just ask her to go see a movie and do it then, or what? was i stupid for not trying anything all day?
thanks guys
McC (link)
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Right, this is happening to me at the moment - and kinda in reverse I think with a guy I like!
Being quite nervous about asking people out also I would suggest biting the bullet and going for it the next time your with her, don't delay because you only get more apprehensive, am I right? From a girl's point of view I know that we prefer it if the guy makes the move - as old fashioned as it sounds! For her to spend a whole day with you sounds as though she reciprocates your feelings so i'd say you've got a good chance! :)
I feel a bit hypocritical writing this, seeing as I haven't got the guts to make a move myself so I wish you luck, I hope it all works out for you!
The Cat's Pyjamas x
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uhm well one of my really really good guyfriends just confessed he has a crush on me & wants to know who i like. he's not like FORCING me or anything but he's obviously curious.
well i feel horrible, because he knows i like someone else (not him) but what he DOESNT know is that it's one of his "friends" (it's in quotes because my crush isn't very nice to him anymore).
do you think i should just tell him? or just keep it a secret? i dont know which is worse - the curiosity eating his brain away or how hurt he will feel if i ever tell him! (link)
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Honesty is the best policy but in this case I would be economical with the truth. I'd tell your friend that you're flattered that he likes you in that way (or words to that effect) but you don't see him the same way.
DON'T mention fancying anyone else. It only causes trouble, trust me! If he asks just say no, it'll save him a lot of heartache trying work out who it is you like and could sabotage your friendship.
Good luck - I hope this helps!
The Cat's Pyjamas x
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Ok. I'm gonna try to make an insanely long story as short as possible. We'll call my ex J and my guy friend M. J and I broke up eight months ago. J was VERY BAD to me. Let that just be enough information. M helped me get over him and get over all the harm he caused. He basically became my best friend. He has always helped me through problems. I love him. I have basically always had feelings for him since last summer when J and I broke up. But he had a girlfriend and I was still broken and damaged from J so I knew it wouldn't work. Ever since winter break we've been texting everysingle day. He is the ONLY guy I have found that when I talk to him I don't think about J or want to be with J. Because even though he hurt me so bad, I still want to be with him... I told M this. Not that I liked him but that he was the only person I could talk to without wanting J. I said I didn't know why. M replied with "You can handle him yourself honey, you're not as dependent on me as you think. I know you can do it." But I AM dependent on him. He rarely texts me first anymore... and he seems more distant. He said something about a girl he thought was hot and the pain I felt... I never saw it coming. I didn't think I liked him this much but I DO. And now that my ex is trying to get me back I really need M. But I don't think he likes me... we do talk everyday but I start the convos but then he gets mad if I don't reply... he tells me I'm beautiful and he hates J and I deserve so much better than J. And he makes me smile. He geniunely makes me happy and lately that's something I haven't gotten much of. Happiness. I can't let this slip away. But I'm so scared if I tell him the truth it will ruin our friendship forever and that would hurt more than anything else. PLEASE HELP. I am fifteen, sophomore. M is 16, junior. T is 17, junior. (link)
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I think the best thing for you to do is come clean to M. The fact that he gets angry when you don't reply shows he wants your attention and if telling you your beautiful isn't a hint that he likes you I don't know what is!
Having had a sort of similar situation happen to me I told the guy I liked him, regrettably things didn't pan out the way I wanted, but by the sounds of things you and M are a lot closer friends than I was with the guy I fancied. Still, we remained friends after I talked to him about my feelings and I'm sure M would with you :)
If things work out romantically then fantastic! But if they don't, I wouldn't get too disheartened - at least talking to him about it will verify where you stand and then you can move on. And to use the cliche - there are plenty more fish in the sea, especially at 15 :)
Good luck,
The Cat's Pyjamas x
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