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another question about my friend
so i posted a question about my friend is controlling. i mean she's like that around me and a few other girls she's close with. i don't know if she does that with her other friends. i decided to hangout with her less, but at some point she's going to ask me why and i plan on telling her because i am busy. i know i can't change her. but should i change my behavior and still hangout with her? i mean is it really worth it? because i mean she's become really religious and at first she would talk to me about Christianity and believing in Jesus and i was all for it but then i felt uncomfortable and it seemed like the church friends that she is friends with only like me when i go to church with them. i mean some of them are rude too, but my friend has become so controlling that it's hard to think that she's changed her ways because of the influence in her life. Now since she realizes that she can't change my religion she tries to change the way i look telling me to buy new shoes because mine's had a hole, wanting to do m y eyebrows, and always yelling at me and saying it's not a big deal, i don't why your making such a big deal out of it. i mean i am sick of it and i know i probably shouldn't hangout with her, but then i'll feel like i am doing that because she's mean and i can't stand it, but i can't change her. and not only that she'll want to hangout but she'll tell me oh i have to do some stuff i'll call you and then she won't call me til 10 o clock at night. and she never wants to come over. she's always says oh you come over because her lazy ass doesn't want to do anything. then she has the nerve to tell me i am rude to her too and starts saying all this crap. even though i am rude to her when she starts with me. she always says my name whenever she gets annoyed with me. i mean she's really unpleasant but i can't changer her so should i still hangout with her? i mean do you think it's worth it?
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I think you should talk to her about it. Before giving up on a relationship you should exhaust ever option lest you second guess your decision later.
Whether she's aware of it or not shes controlling your relationship and making you feel two inches tall in the process. You dont deserve that and you certainly dont treat the people you call friends in such a manner either. When you approach her dont accuse or demean or shout at her about it. Just calmly talk to her about it and express yourself to her as you have done on here. Youre not asking her to change her personality. Just the way she treats you. And if she does change then please remember she may make mistakes but just give her gentle reminders.
If she refuses to change then youre better off without her. A friend doesnt consciously treat a friend with any sort of malice and for them to do so is inexcusable.
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