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His sister and him
17/f
Alright, I'm kind of grossed out or disturbed right now. My boyfriend just told me that his sister likes him, and that if they weren't related, his sister would want to date him. I asked him if he felt the same, and he said, "no." But why am I feeling a bit hurt and awkward right now? My perspective of him changed, I don't know how.. I don't know what has changed.. Maybe I'm just in shock??
The thing is, I kind of sensed it from her that she finds him attractive in some way, but I thought it was because they have a good close family.
I told him that I was a little bit weirded out, and he took it offensively. He thought it was rude, because she likes someone else but just that she likes his personality. I told him I thought it was still a bit weird, but he gave me the attitude.
I told him that I'm sorry to make him feel a bit uncomfortable but there are things that me & him would have a different point of view on. And he said that it was rude because he's the oldest brother and they rely on him a lot. I apologized, even though I felt like he was being rude too... Since he told me that he got tired of me because he sometimes feel sorry about my family status.
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the way to get over this is talk to the sister!Sit down and have a chat and just explain what your feeling right now! You shouldnt be grosed out by this! it grosed me out a little bit but if you no this boy loves you there is nothing atal to worry about! Good luck love
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You're not weird. I think what is REALLY weird is that your boyfriend didn't seem to have a problem with it. YOu say they are a close family... maybe they are a bit too close. This is not a good or normal thing for his sister to express something like that. Its a huge red flag that she would even feel comfortable telling your boyfriend that in the first place. I don't know... I don't know if you SHOULD get over this. Its bizarre. Its not a sign of an emotionally healthy person, him or his sister. I can't tell you what to do as far as the relationship is concerned, but I can tell you that you are not the one with the problem here. If he is making you think that, maybe you need to rethink your relationship.
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It's unsurprising that you reacted the way you did; I think anybody would. It's also not surprising that your boyfriend got defensive about it because it's pretty awkward and he'd probably prefer to brush it under the carpet and not see it as anything abnormal.
And to be honest, it's probably not as big a deal as it first sounds. If he's the eldest brother, the family relies on him (financially or otherwise) and he's a nice guy to boot, he is probably one of the main role models in her life (and a pretty good one by the sounds of it). Assuming that your boyfriend it about the same age as you and that his sister is therefore a fairly young teenager, she is going to be looking at boys differently and trying to work out what she wants in a boyfriend and, eventually, a husband. She recognises that her brother has a lot of good qualities that she'll want and, if my memory of 15/16 year old boys serves me well, she probably hasn't found any other guys around her age that measure up yet. This may in fact be all that she meant when she said what she did, rather than actually meaning that she actually fancies her brother.
Do nothing. Keep being nice to her. This is really unlikely to develop in to anything you need to worry about and is probably something she'll want to pretend never happened once the crappy teenage period is over!
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As long as they are not active then it shouldnt bother you. He does not like his sister like that. He is with you not her. I used to think my husbands cousin was a little to close but I was just over reacting. I just ignored the that fact. I think you should ignore it to.
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