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How can I tell my friend she's annoying nicely?
My friend can be really annoying sometimes. She's overly sensitive, and gets really mad over NOTHING. Sometimes I'll suggest to her something, I don't think I'm being too mean, and she'll flip out, or sometimes she'll get angry over something she started and ignore me until I apologize. I know sometimes I can be annoying and I can acknowlegde it and apologize for mistakes. She's about the opposite. BUT, she's my best friend (I do have other friends) and I love her as a friend, we get along more often than not, but when we don't she's really annoying and infuriates me, how can I tell her this nicely? I try to be patient but she makes it near impossible. Were both in 9th grade and girls btw.
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I can tell you how NOT to do it...
"GOD! You're so ANNOYING!"
Your friend is used to throwing hissy fits to get her way now. This is the pattern, the way she sees it:
1) Argue.
2) Give friend the silent treatment.
3) Friend will apologize, whether it's her fault or not.
4) I get away blame-free.
Every time she gives you the silent treatment and it's not your fault, instead of cracking instantly just tell her she can apologize to you when she's ready, and flounce off to go hang out with other friends. Have fun and show her that you're not going to be her punching bag. She'll learn soon enough.
It's not about ditching her as a friend. You can't change her behaviour, but you can change how you respond to it. That will change her in the long run.
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