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How to get rid of computer to stick my mind more on study?
I am from Bangladesh right now on USA for two years. Still I am not good at English. Not because I am really weak at this but I can't talk to anybody first other than asked. I am not good at other studies either. Because of my bad voice that no one ever understands me that makes class participation grade low and for bad English and most likely bad hand writing cause me other grade being lower. Till I came to USA I have no friends yet as you already may realized. And with everything else my parents are from very traditional family. We are double poorer than normal poor people in USA. That doesn't matter. My parents keep blaming on me that they think I am being very bad being in school. I am freshman in HS. Where I go to school feeling act like nerd without brain and feeling uncomfortable all the time. School and home is the only thing I did two year. By the way I am male. When I first came my parents told me to stay home all the time that I can't mix with American tradition or being bad in their way. I know they want me good that's why they did it. After buying a computer I got something to do with in home. Then I kinda getting addicted to computer. Actually I don't have anything else to do. Beside homework in school are so easy that all finishes in one hour. All the time I stick with. Now my problem to them is I am being too lazy and I don't go outside. I agree. For using more computer and being alone I think I think I am having problem that make me depress quickly I found in online resources. My parents also blame me that I am not good as my friends. Friends from Bangladesh I contact with Facebook where they mostly try to avoid me. May be they are not but I am feeling like it. I saw with long time loneliness a disease come where I get angry or blame on someone for nothing or simple thing. Only thing I know I can do is lot of thinking. I can come to a great result with my thinking and visualization by reasoning but I don't use them. I can't see my mirror. But I think I am kinda shy and less in confident all the time on everything. I am a teen and you may guess my age as you know I am freshman in HS. My hobby "was" reading books and learn new things before using computer all the time. My interest is in science (astronomy and physics) But literary doing anything with this or to learn it's pretty hard for me. Why. Number one we are poor. Number two to get books from library I have to cross two avenue and 23 blocks to get there. Still I went there but most of the time I got sick or headache because I have synosise and axsima. I detect my problems try to find their solution but always feel like starting tomorrow and if I start any distraction to plan make me feel like I messed up need a new plan. Mostly because of computer. So I need help that i can control my won mind as the way I want. I know I still can but you know what I mean after reading all this. I also need my parents to be "happy" by getting good result and getting higher things than my friends. Almost impossible though. And I WANT TO GET RID of computer and things to do and way to learn new things other than going to computer. Or I can control myself while I am on computer. By that I mean I just don't start flowing away from that research to something else then something else again and something else and else again. And another think I don't want to think so much philosophical though as teen. I want to save them for later in life. I need help that I can stay or feel normal in school and practicing for better on normal talk. So those are some things I need advise about. Thanks for reading all this long. I am hoping for some good advise thanks.
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The computer is a great resource. It provides a lot of helpful information and can help you expand your knowledge. It is full of interesting things.
Our minds enjoy learning, interacting with other people, and being active. The computer lets us do all of those things at once. We learn about other people, chat with other people, and are minds are actively gathering new information from this computer technology. The computer allows us to do so much at once, and take in so much information quickly, that it very well can become addictive.
When there comes a point where you realize that something has taken control of your life--even if that something is typically good--then it's time to make a plan. A plan can help you get your life sorted out again and on the right track. Overuse of anything, even good things, can cause a lot of distress.
Make a daily schedule for yourself. Write it down on paper or print it off of the computer. Schedule your time wisely. Allow for computer-time only an hour (or two, depending on if you need computer time to research school material) each day. Make time to write your schedule at the end of each day or at the end of each week.
Make sure to make a healthy schedule. Write down times for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Set aside time for outside activities and "play" time. Set aside a time once a week to go to the library and check out a couple of books--and each day set aside time to read some of those books.
Stick to your schedule. Stick to the daily or weekly plan. If you have extra time then use it for something good, like helping to clean the house or going to a new place in town (and trying to meet people).
You don't need to throw away your computer. You just need to limit your time spent on it to something more healthy so that you can get out more and do more activities with other people in the fresh air.
Now, you mentioned being depressed at one time. I'm not sure if that is a current depression or in the past, but if you have access to mental health care then please seek out a good therapist. If you are in the United States then there are good chances you qualify for free mental health care. You can talk to a therapist, who will take the time to listen to you and help you sort out your issues, on a regular basis.
As for meeting new people and making friends, it will come in time. You should be in public more. Even going to the library regularly can help you get to know people there, such as others who frequent it or the librarians who work there. Just saying, "Hello, how are you today?" can start a good conversation. Do NOT be afraid to say, "I am from Bangladesh so my English isn't perfect. Do you think you could help me out by giving me suggestions for great places to see here?" If your accent is thick and heavy then you may need to repeat what you asked a couple of times, but the person (even if it's just the librarian) can probably still help you and write down some nice places for you to start looking at while you're in the United States.
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