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if your a parent read this; part two.
Thank you so much for your advice. The thing is, I've already done what you suggested. It's impossible to sit down and talk to my father calmy. He always yells and screams, and cusses. It's pointless. He never listens to what I have to say; he's quick to answer. He will have his answer in his head and stick with it; he won't even bother to listen to how I feel. So in that case; I wrote my mom and my dad both a message on facebook, because than they can't interupt me, and I can say whta I want (both messages fairly similar; moms was more sweeter because we are closer). I started off by saying how much I truly appreciate my dad, and everything he's done; how he's always going to be the number one man in my life; and how I respect all the tough love he has giving me. Than I proceeded with me staying at rileys; and than I talked about college, and how its on the tip of my tongue, and how all ive ever wanted to do was make him proud (my dad isn't a very sweet person; he's never told me he was proud of me; i guess its hard for him) and i told him im not going to stop until i do that; i told him im not going to get pregnant, or even have sex cuz all it takes is one time. my future is about to begin, and im ready for it.
than i said some more stuff about how much i appreciate him; ect.
My mom read it, and looked at me and said "NO YOUR NOT STAYING AT RILEYS, END OF STORY". (and me and my mom are suppose to be bestfriends, ha.) I really though she'd hear me out before dad would. Boy I wias wrong.
he replied back to it, surprisingly. he basically said the reason why he aint letting me stay is because of whta people will say and think of me and riley and what we do; i nailed that topic pretty well; since I am over weight, I have had people talk about me all the time; people are going to talk regardless. Sinec it has happened for nearly 17 years, Im use to it, and it doesn't bother me; its their own insecurities, and i know the truth at the end of the day; Im just not to sure how he's going to reply to this message.
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I like the last part of your message. It sounds like you have it all together and that is important. You are right in that it only matters what you think of yourself that counts. It would be nice if you could find away to lose weight, it is for your own good. But that is the only reason to do so not because of what others say or think.
It is a shame your parents are concerned more about what others think. If they are confident they raised you right and that you mean what you say then they should trust you to do as you say. What others say or think should roll of then like water off a ducks back. As long as you and they know the truth that is all that matters.
It is possible that you may not win on the subject of staying over at Riley's house, that is just the way somethings go. You respect your parents and sometimes like it or not you have to follow what they say. You still need to try and convince them that you need to spread your wings in other ways or you will flounder somewhat when you first get to college.
I'm always here to answer questions if you think I can help. I may not always have an answer or have the answer your looking for. I will always answer your question thought with the best advice I have to offer.
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