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Bi curious & scared of the first time with a girl.
So, here's the thing...
I am 18 years old and I am trying to FIND myself SEXUALLY.
I have been attracted to both sexes since... i dont even remember when.
I think the only way to find out if i am TRULY BI SEXUAL is if i actually sleep with a girl since i have already had experience with guys before.
What do you think?
I just need advice on what anyone on here thinks.
AND PLEASE NO RUDE FEEDBACK.
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**it would be really nice to have feedback from someone who has gone through the same thing, or knows someone that has gone through the same thing.**
Thanks
xoxo.
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Razhie pretty much nailed it but I have a few things to add
If you want to be with a woman, Don't let anyone stop you. We all are who we are, Despite what someone may think. If you are bisexual, It is perfectly fine as there are a lot of gay, bisexual, lesbian people out there. Being bisexual is not something to be shamed of or scared. However, Your first experience with a girl I can understand that it probably is giving you an uneasy feeling at first but just remember the more you contribute the more it gradually becomes a more comfortable environment. If you are sexually experiencing, Then let your partner know that you'd like to takes thing slow. If the person respects you, They should respect your choices as well. If you can't see yourself kissing and being with a woman...Well then that answers your question.
I don't fully agree with not having to be with a woman to know if you are bisexual or not. Sometimes in order to know for sure we have to do things that we never pictured ourselves doing to find real answers and to get a feel on things. If you want to sleep with a woman, Go for it. Again, You are 18 years old and you are of age to freely date who ever you wish. Just remember, If it doesn't turn out the way you thought it would...Let the person down lightly as everyone has feelings.
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I think you are truly bisexual if you know you are bisexual. You don't need to sleep with a girl to know it or to prove it to yourself or anyone else, in my opinion.
There are many people on this planet who KNOW they are homosexual, but for religious reasons choose never to act on it. It doesn't change the fact they do what attracts them.
If you'd never slept with a boy, you'd still know you were attracted to males, right?
I think it's just fine for you to desire an experience with a woman! And you should certainly try and find one if that is what you want to do. But don't trump it up in your head as though "I Gotta do this or I'll never KNOW!"
What you know right now, is what you know, and that is okay. Sexuality can be confusing, but being confused doesn't mean you don't know. Being confused isn't a problem: It's normal if you are being honest with yourself to not have all the answers all the time. You'll always be learning new things about your sexuality, from new things that turn you on to new things that turn you off, and all the other things that come up in sexual relationships.
Stop beating yourself up. I've been with women, and I've been with men. I've learned things in all my relationships no matter what form they took. I've learned labeling my sexuality and trying to completely understand it all the time is the best way to make myself crazy. Give yourself some permission to just feel what you feel. So long as you are treating others with honesty and respect, that is all you need to do.
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