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It's getting worse and worse every day
I have the strongest feelings ever for this one guy but he doesn't talk to me anymore it seems he is ignoreing me and I know what your gonna say just talk to him.. it's not that easy for me because I feel that vibe from him.. You know it's gotten to a point that I've been crying close to everyday as long as I'm preoccupied with somethig I don't cry and if I'm not infront of people I just can't cry in front of people... I know why I can't stop thinking about him is because he is the closest guy I have ever gotten to. I miss this guy so much it's making me stressed everytime I see him with another girl talking I feel terrible. I'm a mess I can't meet any guy to replace him.. I feel like there's no way out... He means so much to me I'll do anything for him but he doesn't want to be with me I can just tell I know things.. Every time I think about him which is a lot I regret that I didn't take my chances with him I could have had more of a bond and maybe a rwaltionship I blame myself I'm tired of this I'm crying to a way beyond point and my bestfriend has a boyfriend so I can never talk about my problems anymre bc she's usually talking about him or too busy so I'm alone and I need advice I'm stuck and I don't know what I could do anymore:(((
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I hate to say it, but it definitely sounds like you're obsessed with this guy. That could be why he doesn't talk to you anymore. You've made yourself so openly available there's no challenge there for him. Many guys want to be the one doing the pursuing, not the other way around. It sounds to me like you've put this guy so far up on a pedestal no one else can compete. There are other guys out there. Just because this one isn't interested in you doesn't mean you have to spend your time pining away and crying. You're gonna just have to face the fact that it's not going anywhere and move on. It'll be hard at first, but worth it in the end. Hope this helps. Good luck.
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There's many situations, I rather not attempt to respond to.. although this may be one... I'm am somewhat compelled to reply...
You stated some keys items that needs to be prioritized correctly.
His current actions towards you and this "vibe" that you're aware of, as well as the "the things you just know"... well they aren't in your head. His intentions ARE to create space between you two. The negative impact on you, is that this "space" he needs/wants, has created a "void" within your personal life. Yes, replacing him is one alternative.. however if you are emotionally tied to him without taking this time out for yourself to "sober him up & out of your system", futuristically speaking... you may be keep a wound open instead of encouraging the healing process.
Smaget, regret,... forget
Consider this, say if you get past him, move on and get over him. Would you like for him to return in the future to use your previous feelings as an entrance to "starting" new ones?
It shows no growth and his uneasiness to began anew on an even keel.
It's unclear of the extent of your previous arrangements with him, but if you felt that intensely emotional towards him WITHOUT being being in an actual relationship, it's possible that you may have somewhat... scared him off OR it's possible that he just up and withdrew from you, for no good reasons.
As for being alone, I would think that now would be a great timeframe, to find self-fulfilling activities. For example, reading (in the library daily), or cycling, skating, running, puzzles, internet games and tournaments, handball, etc.
Creating patterns and schedules, it's good for your own self-importance and may provide people you may not have notice... to "notice" you more often.
BE Better
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