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Things to do on the holidays for people who live alone?
I spent Thanksgiving alone, eating leftover spaghetti. I'm spending Christmas alone. I plan to spend New Year's alone. Both of my parents have passed away (car accident when I was 18) and I grew up as the only child. I don't have a lot of friends and I live by myself. I'm not really into big parties or clubs, but I feel bad when everybody talks about how great their Christmas (or whatever holiday) was and how they spent with with their family/friends and ate delicious foods.
What can I do on the holidays so that when somebody asks me at work about them it doesn't sound so dull and boring? All I ever say is, "Oh, it was fine. I spent the day alone and just relaxed," but everybody always makes a sad face and I know they feel sorry for me then. I wish I had something more to say so I could say something like, "...it was really fun!" or something. :\
So, any ideas for things I can start doing on the holidays so my life isn't so lifeless? I'm not really very social so it's not like I can somehow get invited to a special party, and I don't have family to get together and celebrate with. How can I change things so I don't have to be so embarrassed when people ask?
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I'm really sorry. Well you can start saying yes to social events or anything people bring up to you. It will help you feel less depressed about your holidays. If you watched the movie YES Jim Carrey's life changed because he said yes to every opportunity that came his way and he felt more happy making other people happy. So just try doing that. If you want more just invite people over to give you some company. Or go visit your close friends. I know how lonely that can be. But just say yes next time someone asks you to go somewhere with them it can change your life for the better only if you want to.
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I'm sorry about you spending the holidays alone, no one should have to do that. :P
But my advice is: you have to try to be open to different ideas. Maybe you can go out or maybe date online and find some really nice people. For new years eve, ask someone or some people from work or something to go out :) Honestly, you can't just wait and have someone come knock on your door, you have to fix things yourself. :P so I hope your New Years Eve goes better.
Best of wishes!
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It appears a little grandfatherly advice is in order. Since I fit that description I will attempt to give you some.
Spending time alone on Holidays, especially Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter, which are generally family holidays really hurts. Problem is that no one but you can correct it. You have to step outside your comfort zone a bit if you truly wish to change things. How do you do this.
To start with make a list of what you interests are. What do you like to do. Do you like to go hiking, camping. Do you like to cook, are you in to art & crafts. List everything you like to do then research clubs in your area for singles that have similar interests. This is how you meet people and make friends by finding people who have similar interests. When you have similar interest you have a common ground from which to build on, unlike the bar scene where there is no common ground unless all your looking for is a quick night of sex, which does not sound like you.
There is also you Church or Temple. Most have something fr young people. There is also the local parks and recreation department which may sponsor events for young adults.
A small effort on your part to find an activity or group that you have a strong interest in will provide a great return, as long as you don't spend your time sitting in the corner. Mingle, introduce yourself. Try this, Hi, I'm Mindy, this is my first time here can you tell me a little about what goes on. This works well with men and women. Look for someone that appears active in the activity or club you are visiting for the firs time. These people generally love to help newcomers get acclimated into there activity.
I can guarantee if you take my advice your days of being alone are domed to the recycle bin of life.
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