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Why is he doing that?
My ex of 6 months broke up with me. It was a hasty decision and he was showing regret straight away. Without going into too much detail, I wanted to get back together but he said he was unsure. I decided not to stay in contact and he was p*ssed about that.. he still kept contacting me. Last month he told me he still loved me, missed me and wanted nothing more than me back but he didn't know what to do.
I felt like he was always after a reaction from me. Like he sent me a text out of the blue saying "What you up to" I replied and said What? and he said "Sorry that was my gf who sent that" I didn't reply to it, I just left it and a few hours later he said his friend sent that text and he didn't have a gf..which was so not true. I said ok and told him not to contact me again. We haven't spoke since.
Any way he has started talking to one of my BEST friends who tried getting us back together. He knows that she knows exactly how I feel about him etc. My friend said it's in a friendly flirty way. I know she would never do anything with him, but do you think he's doing it to get to me? Or because he does actually like her? If he does actually like her it's gonna hurt me like hell because one of his friends told me he liked me and I turned him away because I cared about my ex's feelings. (My ex doesn't know about his friend, and I know he hasn't found out)
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Hmmm...this guy knows all your hot buttons and he's not afraid to use them. Frankly, he's being a immature jerk and my suggestion would be not to encourage it in anyway. His game playing will stop if you completely ignore it. Pulling the "flirt with her friends" scenario is playing dirty. Do you really want anything to do with a guy like this? He broke up with you, you wanted to get back together, he said he wasn't sure about that so you did the mature thing and stopped staying in contact. He's calling all the shots here. Some people have a real need to be in total control of things and they can't stand it when they're not so they stoop to playing childish games. My honest advice would be to ditch this guy and move on. And, btw, if your "best friend" goes along with this guy then she's not really much of a best friend. That's simply a line best friends don't cross. Hope this helps.
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It sounds like he has definitely been trying to mess with your head. I don't know why - maybe it's his version of an amicable breakup? A way of staying in contact? Whatever it is, it sounds really annoying and I think it's probably for the best that you've broken up with this guy. I'd keep giving him the silent treatment.
As for his possibly trying to go out with your friend... I think you should just not worry about that. Easier said than done, I know, but if you two have really broken up, who he tries to date should really not matter to you. It sounds like your friend has the sense to stay away from him, so just forget about it! You have to start not caring about his love life. It's tough at first, but it gets easier over time.
Good luck! I know you'll find someone better suited to you sooner or later.
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