Question Posted Thursday December 16 2010, 1:39 am
Ok, so theres this one girl i like ( im a girl as well) and i can't tell if shes gay or straight. I just know she acts different around me. Today me, her and another friend of mine went out to coffee. We also went to high school together. She always laughs at things i say, regardless if they're funny or not. She told me i looked cute today, and that my eyes looked good. and i can't explain it. I know shes not laughing AT me. It's just kind of akward, because like i feel something towards her, and i kind of think she might feel it back. my stomach flips every time i see/ think of her. I happened to look away at one point, staring out the window, and staring at her at the same time will still looking out the window, and i noticed she also faced out the window, and i saw it, so then i faced my other friend, she lingered at the window for like 2 seconds, and then cautiously faced back. Is there any chance that she could like me too? sorry for draggint this out. when she talks to me online she uses hehe like every other word and Lots of smileys, more than ive seen her use on anyone else in like facebook and stuff. Thanks for your help, and reply quickly please!
julie75 answered Thursday December 16 2010, 7:57 pm: When I was younger and into my curious stage, I had a casual friend that I had similar feelings for. I made up a story about having a problem at work and needed her to come over to talk. So I made up some margaritas and just started talking. After we got a little tipsy we were closer on the couch and touching each other a little more. I told her she shouldn't drive home drunk and offered to let her stay the night. After she agreed I was pretty sure I could make a little move and I did after we got our jammies on. If you do make a move and she turns you away, don't be upset, just appologize and try to laugh it off. If you have any other questions please feel free to ask me. Hope this helps and good luck. [ julie75's advice column | Ask julie75 A Question ]
Sageadvisor answered Thursday December 16 2010, 11:40 am: Well, it sounds like there's a chance she's into you, but you won't know for sure until you talk to her some more. Ask her out - not on a "date," exactly - just say there's a cool movie, do you want to go see it, etc. Try and pick a day when your mutual friend is busy so she can't/won't automatically ask her along as well.
Then, when you're having a sandwich or a drink or something at some point in the evening, bring up some topic that touches on gay things - don't-ask-don't-tell repeal, gay marriage, Ellen Degeneres, whatever! Read her body language, make lots of eye contact, touch her hand, etc. If it goes well, ask her out again. If she says yes, she WILL understand by the end of the second date at the latest that you're into her. Then the ball's in her court.
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