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how do i get rid of him but still be a friend?
okay so over the summer i had a "thing" with this guy. then it ended and one of his friends started talking to me about why it ended and blahblah. then he got my number from somewhere and started to text me more and more. i kinda just went along with it cause i like to text haha. i kind of regret it now because he texts me ALL THE TIME and won't leave me alone. like if i don't answer for 5 minutes he'll just keep texting me until i answer and its really annoying. i'm nice to him though and i do text him back most of the time. i want him to back off a little but i do work with him so i want to keep things cool. how can i do this without being mean?
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How do you get rid of him but still be his friend?
That's a bit like asking how do I push someone into a lake, but make sure they don't get wet.
Face it honey - this guy's idea of 'friendship' includes texting you to the point of harassment. You don't want to be his friend. You don't like his idea of friendship. You just want to be civil and friendly and not too mean.
And that might be hard to manage.
The first thing you do. Is stop answering text messages. You can use Christmas break as an excuse if you'd like, and say "Yeah, I'm too busy for texting right now." Don't tell him when you'll be less busy, but let him know you aren't interested in the texts.
Is it mean? A little bit. But it's no meaner than what he is doing to you.
It's time for him to go a day or two without hearing from you. Just ignore his texts.
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Stop answering all the time. I know you like to text, but text someone else. If you still feel bad after ignoring him, text him like once every other day saying hi and then say sorry ive been so busy i just dont have time to talk all the time.
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