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Relationship Dramaa
Okay...wow where to start.
So my friend introduced me to this girl awhile back and at first it was nothing but like a little crush. I didn't even know she liked me until my friend brought it up sort of jokingly. Since then, she's been really touchy and close to me, despite the fact she has a girlfriend and all who left for college this year.
And within the past month, we've gotten really 'close' both like...emotionally and romantically and physically and it's gotten out of hand. I've spent the night at her house so many times now but...no not 'spent the night' in the terms you're probably thinking.
About a week ago she told her girlfriend Kelly and since then they've been at odds. They're still together and Nicole (the girl) is always complaining how she can't decide between me and her girlfriend. And it's really wearing me down.
I mean, I can't just say that I don't want to be a part of it anymore or tell her to just make up her mind since like....I know if I did she'd just go run to Kelly and make up. Supposedly according to our mutual friend, she really likes me but I can't help but feel like a sort of distraction when kelly isn't here. And I told nicole that on many occasions, but she just sort of gets upset and says that it's not like that, she's just confused.
I really care about her, and I've pretty much wrapped my life around her now, and she's sorta done the same thing for the whole situation. And I don't know what to do anymore. Anyone?
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Ok, you need to talk to Nicole. I really think you should figure out what exactly it is that she wants.
When someone is confused, you should help the person get their head on straight by talking to them about it seriously. The best thing you should do, is figure out her feelings,and ask her to make up her mind. What does she want? How exactly does she feel about her "gf"? Who does she want to be with more? Don't be afraid of the answers, even if you're scared of getting hurt. So don't avoid asking these sorts of questions. These answers are what you're looking for. Pay attention to the way she talks to you when she answers these questions. This will help you determine a lot.
If she keeps this up, you might even end up hurt or who knows what. If you figure out what's in her heart, you will both understand each other and hopefully come to a resolution. Don't forget to give her a little space and time to think. Just be firm, and be strong no matter what the outcome.
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ohkay so i have the vision this is a (please dont be affended when i use this term.) lesbian situation? well it seems like you and nicole are inlove. i think if she loved kelly as much as she loved you she wouldnt go behind kellys back like tht. she obviously has feelings for her bc she wont let her go. you need to just confront nicole and just come straight out and tell her it isnt right for her to have both of you. it may hurt her and possibly you but this rlly needs to be discussed. xoxo, beaniebaby
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I think if she really matters to you..you would try and work it out if she gets upset it means she cares.If it takes to long and she can't decide then to her your not more important then her girlfriend..i hate to say. If shes commited to the relationship and really wanted to be with you she would make it happen..if shes having second thoughts and cant make up her mind it means she likes both of you the same. if i were in your position i would say dont give up if you really like her and want to be with her..if she takes to long to decide leave.
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