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worried theres something wrong with me..
Okay so i'm having some problems with sex..let me explain (im so sorry if this ends up long but I really need some advice)
So me and my boyfriend have been together over a year and we are both 17.
A few months ago we decided we were ready to have sex,however it didn't go to plan it was awkward and there was issues with the condom and so on it just wasn't the right time. We stopped and said we would do it properly another time.
So we did and it went better except it didn't really feel like anything to me! It didnt even hurt..it wasnt pleasurable it just wasnt anything.
I figured it would take time the more we did it the better we would feel.
Everytime we have done it since it just doesnt feel like anything and it makes me so frustrated.
When I say it doesnt feel like anything I mean I can feel him inside me but thats about it.
Ive had orgasms from him touching me and fingering me and that feeling is amazing but I cant get it from sex?Its upsetting me because its making me feel like im dysfunctional. I have never actually physically "cum" either. Ive gotten what I assume is an orgasm just like this intense feeling all through my body. Recently I was away in england with my boyfriend and we were going to have sex when I just broke down and started crying. I wanted to tell him so many times before but I didn't want to upset him because I knew he would think it was all his fault which he did..when I told him. I know its my body though I mean whats wrong with me!? why can't I feel anything why havnt I been able to cum?is there any other girls with similar problems.. this is really worrying me that I will never be able to enjoy sex I feel like such a fail.. and I wan't to enjoy it for my boyfriend to I wan't it to be fun and special but so far my experiences with it have been indifferent.
Please help!
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There is nothing wrong with you. The first thing you need to do is make sure you know what feels good on your body when you're alone. That will help you tell your bf what things he can do to make you feel good. The next thing to try is to slow down before you have sex. Try more foreplay, like extended kissing, slowly taking each others clothes off, having him caress your face and body and having him kiss you all over. Some of these things should get you stimulated more and mentally able to loosen up. Many women are not able to orgasm only from straight sex, so don't be discouraged. You can try using a powerful and small vibrator on your clit while he is inside of you. Make sure he knows that using a vibrator is no reflection on his performance but merely an aid to bring pleasure to you. Feel free to ask me anything in the future. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I have read your problem and i understand you may be stressed so here is my solutions:
1)see your GP
2)get some toys
3)experiment
4)it may be somnthing to do with his "cum" (sperm)
5)goggle some womens experiences/problems
6)keep practising, you may find its just the begining you find uncomfotable, it may get better
I hope you find this infomation useful and I am happy to help you PERSONLY and if you have any problems inbox/message me.
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You are perfectly normal.
Most women never ejaculate when they orgasm. The woman who do are in a small minority, and there is no reason to think their orgasms are any better. You CAN reach orgasm, just not through penetration with a penis alone. That also is perfectly normal. Most women need direct stimulation of their clitoris to orgasm.
Again: You DON'T have a problem. It is perfectly normal not to orgasm from plain old missionary sex.
We're all different. If you spend all your time worrying about whether you are normal, you will end up focus on just one area and simple act of sex and ignore everything else. There is no single best way to have sex.
The best way to have sex, is the way that makes you happiest.
So play around and explore. Try different positions, ones with you are top might help you find the friction you need against his body to help you get off. Touch yourself, or ask him to touch you while you are having sex. Masturbate and experiment by yourself. Buy a toy.
Stop comparing yourself to some mythical sexual standard that doesn't exist.
You can orgasm. My advice would be different if you can't, but you can. But whatever straight forward position you are having penetrative sex in right now, just isn't doing it for you. That's okay. That's really common.
Read this, and think about it, and tell your boyfriend you both should try to stop worrying, but try out some different types of fun.
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