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When to tell my parents I am gay?
When (if ever) should I tell my parents I'm a lesbian? I'm 17 and still living at home. My parents are Christians, and they are against homosexuality very much. I care about them and it hurts so much to keep this from them. However, I'm afraid that if I tell them about it, they'll be very disappointed in me and most likely either send me to "get help" and try to change me or just disown me and kick me out. My view is that I can be a Christian and gay at the same time. I want my parents to understand this and accept me, but I don't know if it's possible. I just need some advice!
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I wasn't sure on what type of advice to offer you. When this happens I usually turn to the Internet to research an answer. I found a web site that had some interesting information you might wish to review in formulating how you wish to tell your parents. Pay special attention to items 4,6,7 & 8. The web address is: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
I do not know your parents so it is hard for me to tell you how to go about or what to say to your parents. People of your parents age and deep religious convictions have had it drilled into them that homosexuality is wrong.
I'm older than your parents, actually old enough to be your grandparent, and armor liberal than your parents. I believe that sex between two consenting adults is be it male/female, female/female or male/male is no ones business but the participants. As long as no one is being forced to participate, no one is being hurt by participating and most important both are finding enjoyment by participating why should it bother me. Does it change who they arr; are they any different than who they were before I found out they were gay? NO.
In preparing to tell your parents first review the web information I found. Then since you know your parents formulate your response to their reaction. Since they are most likely going to come back at you with being gay is an abomination; be prepared to show them in the bible where this is questionable.
Your not going to convince your parents they are wrong so be prepared to meet them halfway. You might want to tell them as I have told other young ladies who THOUGHT THEY MIGHT BE GAY; that this may be just something you have to explore while you explore your sexuality. That gay sex while in college is safer and more available to help take the edge off sexual frustrations.
Your parents love you, this I'm sure of. If you approach them in the right way I'm sure they will not disown you. They may be disappointed but they will still love you. One other thing, you do not have to tell them just yet. You can wait until your a little older.
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I believe the same thing you do, that you can be gay and believe in christ. I think it's the lords duty to judge us when the time comes, not for anyone else to. But now you have the delema of telling your parents and having them look down or even rejecting you because of your chosen sexuality. You may want to drop a few lines on each of them individually and mention that you know of someone that declared themselves gay and see what their reaction would be. If one reacts less harsh than the other, then you may want to start slowly easing that parent into your situation. I hope you stay on the path you chose and don't let anyone make you think your less of a person because of your desicions. Good luck.
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