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How to get girlfriend back who says she loves me
My girlfriend just broke up with me and we were both really sad. I'm an 18 year old male and she is 18 as well. she is the first girl i've had sex with. a few days after breaking up with me she told me i have to fight with her and talk to her more and we will get back together. i asked her how i'm doing today and she said very good. but she has been really weird lately. she said i can't rush her with these things when i just asked how i'm doing. i love her a lot and she says she loves me too. but it just doesn't seem like she does. i'm getting more sad and more sad everyday and idk what to do.
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So you have to talk to her more? Fight with her? Pay lots of attention to her and basically be available to her BUT you can't rush her?
You should be sad. That arrangement sucks the big one. It's almost completely impossible that the two of you will get back together and be happy like this.
So what do you do? You do the really hard thing and tell her that if she wants to WORK on the relationship, to make it work in the future for the both of you, you have to be together to do that. You can't work on relationship that doesn't exist. You can't be broken up, and trying to mend your relationship. It doesn't work like that.
If she doesn't want to be together and work on your relationship, that's fine. She owes it to you to tell you that honestly, and for you to be broken up. Truly broken up. Not just 'broken up until you worship me constantly and I might take you back, maybe.'
Then you do the really tough work of being broken up, of not really talking, of crying it out and feeling like shit and dealing with one of the first, worst break ups you'll ever have.
It's not simple, it's not easy and it's not even very hopefully, but it's where you are right now. You'll get through it, just be honest about what you want, and don't wait forever for support and compromise that isn't coming.
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