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We hooked up... and now I feel guilty!
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Ok, so I have a really good guy friend and he and I hang out a lot when we go out to parties and stuff. He has a huge crush on my best girl friend. We talk about her and I'm trying to help him get to know her more so she can see what a great guy he is. Sooo. One night while we were out, me and my guy friend hooked up. We decided not to tell anyone because we thought if no one knew then it wouldn't matter. Well my best friend (girl) read my phone and figured out what happened. She confronted me about it and I told her everything. SHe isn't mad in the least bit because she doesn't care that much about the guy, she was just mad because she thought we were better friends that I could tell her stuff like that. She knew something was up right away and only when she saw my phone did hse realize why. Even though she isnt mad at me and we've talked about everything I can't help feeling guilty everytime I talk to either my best friend or the guy I hooked up with. It's making me sick to my stomach thinking about it. I don't knwo what to do or how to get this feeling away. I mean she's not mad at me so why do I feel guilty? Any advice on the situation would be amazing.
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Everyone makes mistakes. No one is able to punish us more then we do ourselves. We are unable to erase them or make people forget about it. The only thing you can do is realise what you did was wrong and feel sorry for it. But not for the rest of your life. It is okay to make mistakes.
I think you need to tell this guy that there will be NO further contact. Friends sure. But NOTHING else. If this guy truly likes your friend, why did he hook up with you? You really need to thank your friend for not getting mad, not many friends do that.
Maybe you should explain to your friend how your feeling and see what she has to say. Personally, I don't think this guy is right for your friend. He sounds a bit sleezy and she sounds like a kind, gentle girl.
I truly hope everything works out in the end.
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hey. so my advice is that you've realized your mistake and you need to figure out why your doing this kind of stuff. stop beating yourself over it. as for that guy just because he promised not tell anyone, that doesn't mean he will since he is a guy. you should just stay away from him, because all he wanted from you was sex and he'll probably ask you again but you need to be strong and say no because you don't know how many other people he's been with. your friend obviously doesn't care either so you shouldn't feel bad, but at the same time don't repeat what you did. i hope you feel better.
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